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Birds of Prey #27 - Old Friends and Broken Noses

2020.09.16 03:06 SqueeWrites Birds of Prey #27 - Old Friends and Broken Noses

Birds of Prey #27 - Old Friends and Broken Noses

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Author: SqueeWrites
Book: Birds of Prey
Arc: Taking Flight
Set: 50
 
 
Her eyes downcast, Helena stepped out of the elevator and left the small hotel that Barbara and the others had been staying in. A sea of Japanese faces in the dark ignored her, all watching the sidewalk, looking at their phone, or engaging with friends. Lights lit up the district fairly well, but even the best lit city had shadows. Who was she in the grand scheme of things? Her old teammates didn’t want her. Her only friend Inara was so angry with her for just existing. Helena was an infinitesimal dust speck beating up mobsters in a small pond. Or some such stupid metaphor, Helena thought. She’d always been bad at metaphors.
She started walking down the street, turned left past her own hotel, and continued on, wandering the streets of Tokyo. Helena didn’t consider herself a sullen person. The scents of sweetened rice balls on a stick called to her so she bought some and enjoyed them. She enjoyed things in general. She liked life. Recently though… She’d spent far too much time in self reflection, trying to figure out her relationships, her beliefs, and just what she wanted.
Helena bit the last dango from the stick it came on and she chewed it aggressively before looking around for a trash bin anywhere. There wasn’t, of course, Helena had the worst luck, but she continued wandering around in some vain hope to find one. What she needed, she thought, was a purpose. Nothing helped her feel more centered than kicking some asshat’s teeth in. Her father had gotten busted by Batman a long time ago though and still the cockroaches like Claudius swam in. It was like trying to scrape the sand off your feet at the beach. All you do is hop on one leg and then the next.
Her fist curled around the sticky piece of wood and she was just about ready to hurl it into the street while cursing the entire Japanese people when she finally saw a trash can. Not a stupid drink recycling bin. One for actual trash. She looked around as she tossed the remains of her snack into the bin and realized that she’d wandered into some kind of upperclass neighborhood. Lofts, apartments, and penthouses towered over the local bars and restaurants in the neighborhood and the number of people walking about at the late hour had dwindled.
One person stuck out to her though.
A black woman who towered over the few other people walking the streets leaned heavily against a wall, eyes darting not so surreptitiously around. Frankly, the tall ass woman looked sketchy as hell. People like that are clearly up to something.
A little action might be just the thing to knock me out of this… existential crisis? What am I a 40 year old middle class white man?
Helena walked casually away and then turned back and ducked into the side of an alley to keep an eye on the suspicious woman. She’d rather kick the crap out of a man, but her beliefs ran fairly egalitarian when it came to criminals. Maybe she could pretend they were Zinda. That might be therapeutic. Who says you need a therapist when you have kickass coping strategies like these?
The two of them waited like that for what felt like an hour with the woman barely moving other than the odd sway or her constantly darting eyes. Was she drunk? Helena thought, now not entirely sure that she’d get the outlet for her aggression that she was looking for tonight.
A barking laughter of some kind stole Helena’s attention for just a moment and when she turned back, the woman was simply gone. Helena blinked dumbfounded. Had she just wandered off at the perfect time? Her walk forward to try to find her was interrupted by the telltale sound of boots slapping against pavement coming from the alleyway. A glance told her that she hadn’t lost the woman after all.
Charging at her like a freight train, the woman lunged and Helena barely leapt out of the way, her foot coming across the woman’s shin as she rolled across the worn paving stones, but it barely slowed her and didn’t trip the woman at all like she had hoped. In a flash, Helena was back on her feet, back now facing the dark alley, and stepped further inside. The woman followed, adopting a fighting stance that was unfamiliar to Helena but looked almost like some kind of wrestling or MMA base.
“So what’s a sweet thing like you up to tonight?” Helena asked adopting a stance of her own.
“Do not try to tempt me, siren,” the woman said in a strange halting accent.
“Tempt you? Sorry, I prefer my partners with a bit more meat if you catch my drift.”
“Then why do you watch me? Do you intend me ill?”
Helena laughed. This woman had to be the muscle of some criminal group. She seemed to naive to be anyone higher. “How about you just take me to your boss and we can skip the part where I kick your ass?”
Her eyes narrowed in response. Banter complete, the dark skinned woman rushed forward and threw a flurry of blows. Helena just managed to get her hands up to turn the woman’s blows aside, but even after redirecting most of the force, she stumbled backwards from the impact. This woman hit like a truck!
Now serious, Helena feinted high before dropping a kick into the woman’s thigh. The blow landed solidly and the woman sidestepped to let the reduce the impact some, but before Helena could snap her foot back, she grabbed it with both hands and pulled upward. And the woman had half a foot on Helena so there was a lot of up.
Helena flexed, reaching forward to try and grab hold of the woman’s arms, but like the rest of her, they were too long and soon Helena was held high above the woman’s head. “Shit.” Wind whipped her hair past her face before her back slammed into the uneven paving stones, knocking the breath out of her. Gasping for breath, Helena started to think she made a mistake. This woman was stronger, taller, and seemingly better trained than she was. What did she have that her foe did not?
The muscle bound woman grabbed the gasping Helena by her shirt, slowly pulling her off of the ground. As the woman started to ask her something, Helena realized the best quality that she had to beat this woman. Self destructive behavior. In the space of a breath, she kicked around, slammed both feet against the ground as she smashed her forehead against the woman’s nose. Pain lanced through her head and knew the blow had cut her too, but the crunch of the woman’s nose and the tears that sprang unbidden into her foe’s eyes were worth it.
No one beats the Huntress when it comes to a Scorched Earth technique.
With a yell, her foe leapt forward, punches firing off in a flurry. Helena dodged or turned what she could, but most of the blows landed on and her arms started to become numb from impact. As one came streaming right past her face, she latched on, falling backward using her body to leverage the woman off balance. As soon as Helena’s back hit stone, she flung both her feet outward and slammed into the woman’s stomach. Despite the force of the blow, the woman’s ab wall didn’t even flinch and she countered instantly.
Helena wasn’t even really sure what happened, but somehow the woman had gotten both legs wrapped around her waist and had tied up the only arm that wasn’t slammed against the pavement. Two punches earned a less satisfying crunch when Helena’s own nose broke. She pulled hard on Helena’s arm using one hand as a lever and Helena screamed out in pain, wondering her arm was about to snap.
“Stop!”
The words from a male voice echoed through the alley and Helena exhaled a breath she hadn’t even noticed that she held as the force against her arm loosened. Tears blurred her vision, mingling with blood that ran down from both the cut on her forehead and her broken nose.
“She was stalking me,” the woman said, clearly defensively as Helena heard the man approach.
“So? Don’t kill your tail. Lose them,” the voice said, clearly irritated. And also something about it seemed familiar?
“Do not use the k-word,” the woman said, now admonishing him. “We’re only a few miles away from him. He can probably hear you.”
“Oh right. My bad. If you’re listening big guy, hope your movie’s good and we’re not doing anything bad,” he paused, but when no response came, he seemed to breathe easier. “All right, good. Now let’s take a look at your tail. I really didn’t expect Ito to have people watching him.”
A blurry face swam into Helena’s view, but again something seemed so familiar to her.
“Holy shit. Helena? What the hell are you doing here?”
 
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“I can’t believe that you’d suggest we take her back after what she did!” Zinda exclaimed. Dinah, for her part, tried to be patient, but the woman could be so uptight sometimes. Which now that she thought about it… so could Barbara. Maybe it was just something about Dinah that attracted people that just had their clocks wound too tight. She sighed.
“I meant what I said when she was here,” Dinah responded calmly. “You seem to look up to the Blackhawks. Do you think they never killed anyone on an operation?”
“There is a difference between war and what she did.”
“Why? Just because the government tells you to kill someone doesn’t make it okay. You know how many innocent Iraquis have died in the last two decades under government orders? A lot.”
Unfortunately the woman wasn’t so easily dissuaded. She continued to pace their hotel room as Barbara had already left to go to her own. “I obviously don’t think that the US government does everything perfectly or I wouldn’t be here galavanting as some dumb vigilante. I do think that if we’re going to set ourselves up as being above the law that we need to have standards and respect the sanctity of life.”
Dinah thought life had about the guaranteed sanctity of a dog turd, but maybe she was just being cynical. “Barbara and Helena both feel the same way. Why do you think Barbara was just as upset as you? Why do you think Helena came to apologize?”
“Apologize?” Zinda scoffed, practically stamping her feet. “Apologize?? She apologized for ‘making a snap decision.’ That’s like your partner saying, ‘I’m sorry you got upset when I called you a fat slob.’ It’s just useless, insulting pandering!”
Another sigh escaped Dinah’s lip and she just shrugged falling back on the bed. “Look, I can see that you’re not going to come around to my perspective. That’s fine. Barbara said it had to be unanimous and it wasn’t so Helena’s out. Case closed. Call off the dogs, Zin. You won.”
Dinah could tell that Zinda didn’t look like she wanted to drop it, but thankfully, she pulled out her laptop and started busying herself with something so she considered her olive branch taken. Still, Dinah also had a much more practical reason for wanting Helena around. For the kind of mission Barbara was planning, she just didn’t feel comfortable having only a well-trained but super green pilot and seasoned expert who’s legs were on a time limit.
What she needed was another field agent at her back that she could trust and she did trust Helena. Even moreso after her last mission. Every soldier learns in training to fail forward. It’s better to be wrong without hesitation than to be right and hesitate. Unsure soldiers tended to die before they even got their guns out. Dinah sighed. Well, she’d gone on missions with worse she supposed. Tomorrow would tell her just how warranted her fears were.
 
 
[Birds of Prey #28 Next>] - Coming October 15th!
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2020.09.08 02:32 PopularTradition Finished Narcos: Mexico - Some Thoughts

Not sure what kind of people are on this subreddit and the general biases that exist here. However, I am going to shoot from the hip as usual and write about my uncensored thoughts.
Finished Narcos: Mexico Seasons 1/2:
Pros:
  1. Excellent cinamatography. Compare this to El Dragon and you can see why (still a decent show though).
  2. Strong on the historical accuracy. I enjoyed bits about zooming out and talking about the 80's in general. Comparing the largest coccaine busts to date in Season 2 Ep 9.
  3. Packing some heat and occassional references to gun history like the scene in the elevator with the guns Hitler's guard used.
  4. Realistic deaths.
  5. Showed the brutality of the narco subculture.
  6. Painfully and accurately portrayed the corruption in Mexico from politicians, police, and even the military.
  7. Did better at showing that these are just people that needed to eat (that completely got fat off the money/power) due to ruthless politicians hoarding all the wealth.
  8. Shows how much more money narcotraficantes brought in compared to oil in the 80's. That $4 bil vs the $15 bil USD was scary. Mexico's economy was heavily oil dependent at about 40% of the economey in the 80's.
  9. Diego Luna, José María Yazpik, Fernanda Urrejola, Teresa Ruiz, etc did excellent work.
  10. Shows that the Americans were not just the white saviors they were shown to be in the original Narcos in Colombia.
  11. Flows nicely.
  12. Did better with showing Felix's bad side, but still mostly glorified the dude.
  13. Less American-Centric than Narcos in terms of interpretation. There was a fair amount of fuck ups on the USA side and criticisms of the CIA, FBI shooting up civilians in the pueblo, etc.
  14. Accurately portrayed the corruption in Mexico.
  15. Beautiful country-side shots.
  16. I enjoyed how they showed what part of the country they were in and the map visuals when they could.
  17. Brutally attacked the rich of Mexico with Alexandria Gulimant probably being the only redeeming wealth "fresa" (although she cared more about endangered animals than people which is common among the white power class in the USA as well. Easier to care about environmental issues than socioeconomic ones especially if that threatens your power). Honestly, she was complicit in all of it too though. Maybe her enviornmental care was just virtue signaling.
  18. The top-down authoritarian approach present with the PRI's 90 year dominance (for example) is shown to largely be hurting the people. You need to listen to your employees even if they are not your partners.
  19. It pays to forgive sometimes, but ultimately most solutions are solved with violence in that subculture.
  20. Shows some tensions between Mexicans/Mexican-Americans with Kiki that could have been fleshed out more. I guess it is fair they would not send a Mexican-American who could not speak Spanish well, but would send a white American who could not speak Spanish well because well, yeah you know.
  21. Diego did a fantastic job at going from good cop to resentful, unforgiving and eventually defeated (but still cunning) drug kingpin.
Cons
A. Paints a dismal picture of Mexico. Accurate, but unfair in my opinion when it comes to the general Mexican people.
  1. I have been here living near Puerto Vallarta, Mexico since March of this year. I have been coming here since the early 2000's. I have witnessed corruption a few times. Some Mexican nationals on an ATV run from Guadalajara to PV were kidnapped (1 killed) in front of the Costco here two months ago. The New Generation Jalisco Cartel posted a few Twitter videos flexing their firepower a few months ago. A drug lord was recently arrested in Guanajuato. El Chapo's son is giving food to hospitals in Sinaloa. El Chapo is saying he is depressed in Colorado's maximum security prison due to COVID restrictions. This is still ongoing.
  2. Banorte, one of Mexico's 4 largest commercial banks by assets, was caught in a drug money laundering operation in the late 90's.
  3. Mexican politicians are corrupt as hell. Current president AMLO's brother was recently caught accepting a $1 mil USD bribe. Corruption is up in Mexico. Even the US ambassador and former US Ambassador before him warned not to invest here. Seems like nothing has changed.
  4. Displaying how easy these narcotraficantes can control THE MILITARY in the 80's may be accurate, but paints an extremely bad picture of Mexico from the eyes of an American viewer (and international audience) that has never been here.
  5. Even though the Military has been patrolling the carretera 200 in response to the Jalisco Cartel - I have no doubt these cats would murder me if I was on the wrong side of Mexican politics. I have no faith in 911 (same as the USA) if I called it down here. Private security is the way to go. Bribes are still very effective; however, I have never had to make one thankfully. I would also not like to contribute to a system of corruption.
  6. Mexican police - at least I have met some good federales, but no doubt they would do something unethical if their masters told them too. Good news is that at least a few dozens officers got fired in central Jalisco for narco connections.
  7. Narcos still control large swaths of Mexico. I just believe they are more educated and know not to shoot some mofo in the club over some petty shit. They have adapted and will continue to.
  8. Does not mention, but clearly displays the anti-intellectualism of Mexico unlike El Dragon which tries to push multiculturality and Mexican technological prowess. From either the foreign or Mexican perspective, it does not support a view that Mexicans can achieve intellectually. Diego Luna is our best bet and some example that guy is...
  9. No one cashes in their chips. Even the promising Teresa Ruiz pushes it with the Tijuanna cartel until she gets arrested in a warehouse. She came off as so powerful and sophisticated. So much for Mexican pride.
  10. If I was a tourist ignorant of Mexico, I would never want to come here after watching this show. 1986 is still pretty close especially if the narco problem is still ongoing.
  11. Shows (intentionality of the directors and editors aside) Mexicans are incapable of long term organization. They eventually break apart.
  12. Shows that even the common people are active participants or complicit with these narcotraficantes that "own" whole cities or towns because they know everyone and have guns.
  13. Does not delve into the history of why Mexico and Latin America is so corrupt.
  14. Start at the 300 year Spanish colonalization and extraction of resources.
  15. Continue to US involvement at all stages of Mexico from 1821 onward.
  16. See Mexican-American war of 1846-1848 where we took half of Mexico's terrirory by force for $15 mil at the time and forced then Mexican president Santa Anna to sign it. We provoked the war. I do not apologize for it personally. Mexican corruption and disorganization also led to us winning that war. It is just easier to blame the USA than take responsibility for what you can within your own country. And I sure as hell would not give back Texas, California, New Mexico, Arizona, etc. However, I question if Mexico would have the orgaization to develop those terriorties seeing that the power players in Mexico City do not care about the North. The North of Mexico is its own culture more aligned with the USA. Baja California is totally off the national power grid.
  17. The best way to balance understanding why all this corruption and poverty came to be would be to read Open Veins of Latin America: Five Centuries of Pillage of a Continent by Eduardo Galeano. Although....that would make the show less sexy and appealing to the American (and even Mexican) viewer.
  18. I guess we have to settle for Walt's explanation that "everybody's gotta eat" and Guillermo González Calderoni's "This is just how it works down here - you do not understand!"
  19. Obviously and accurately showed the technological superiority of the USA. Glad it was led by Kiki who is Mexican-American leading on that, but Walt eventually took a classic American role in season 2.
  20. Kiki representing the USA in Season 1 was a great counternarrative to the "white savior complex" Hollywood is heavily criticized for (#OscarsaresoWhite).
  21. Falls into many Mexican stereotypes (Bandito lifestyle of Francisco Arellano Felix, the roughness and immaturity of the Sinaloan cowboys, drinking too much alcohol, etc.). All accurate especially for narcotraficantes.
  22. The dark Mexican/indigenous Mexican bad and lighter skin Mexican good or at least successful is imagery shown all throughout the show. Other than Azul - Season 2 Episode 10 everyone around the table is a light skinned Mexican. And yes, there is a power differential in this society. A pigmentocracy if you will. How Rafa went down was probably accurate, but sad. The dude tried to get clean, but eventually could not control himself. Also, the darker Mexicans are portrayed as the workers, being shooting at others, people getting shot, etc. Again, accurate. Especially for the 1980's. However, it is just too bad that is how things are still down here.
  23. Language thoughts -
  24. more que's than mande's than I expected - did not hear mande once.
  25. all the creative Mexican slang (surprised they did not used naco at all).
  26. The Whole Marvel Universe of Narcotraficantes feels cool, but ultimately serves to glorify these criminals.
  27. Weak on showing discrimination against Mexicans/Mexican-Americans by white Americans. Not necessary. Shown once or twice. However, the USA is still dealing with race problems and I have no doubt it was rough for a guy like Kiki in the 80's in the lowest department on the totem pole (DEA). If Trump is still using the "bad hombre" line, can you imagine what was said in the 80's in Fresno, CA? USA's moral standing needs to be taken down a notch.
  28. Did a fair job showing the nasty ways the USA meddled in Latin America. But like the Spanish ultimately won the narrative of conquistadors over the defeated indigenous of mesoamerica - I believe the USA ultimately wins the moral narrative battle over Mexico simply due to all the corruption and violence of these narcotraficantes.
  29. I do sometimes wonder if there were any good apples in the Mexican upperclass. However, I would not waste my time finding them. Sounds like they were all complicit in the game.
I like Diego Luna a lot. Would not change him for some white Argentinian guy playing a Mexican like El Dragon. He is super representative of the majority of Mexicans (and yes, they have a Vida Aspiracional problem with their media here). First saw him in Star Wars. Watched his Pan y Circo in Amazon Prime. The guy is both privileged (born into a degree of wealth), woke, and trying to get other Mexicans to be woke (lot of Mexicans still think this is not racist and part of their national culture...).
That all said I expect more from the guy in influencing this script to positively portray Mexicans. Perhaps that is boring, but my suggestions are:
  1. Have someone with the sense to walk off, turn their life around (but still be in touch with them), etc. Diego's 2nd wife is not that deep in the game and she has kids. Francisco tried, but ultimately does not want to be a snitch and gets shot by 30 people despite knowing he has a kid on the way...
  2. I would have liked to see some forgiveness from someone. But if that is not true then forget it. I prefer the truth over good PR for Mexico. It is always eye for an eye. Predictable. Diego at first had the restraint of a warrior in Season 1. That eventually wore off as he got drunk with power.
  3. Show student protests against this stuff (then you find out nasty stuff like the Tlateloco Massacre of 1968 or the 43 students that went missing in 2014 on a school trip to Mexico City).
  4. Show someone in the pueblo that refuses to be complicit in narco money. It would have been nice to have that counterbalance of an honest Mexican constantly being observed, but not bothered by these narcos. Doubt those sociopaths would care.
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2020.08.01 11:46 entpia Bitcoin is gold.

I'm sure many ppl are aware of the story around the price and value and usage of gold as currency along the ages.
Once upon a time people had stuff and they wanted to trade it for other stuff, because variety is nice in life and it allows you to produce the things you need in life that you are good at producing while gaining the advantage of sharing that thing with others and recieving their products and services in return.
The problem occurs when your trading partner has no use for your products/services, so a 3 person trade is required. If Joel wants a goat and Sarai wants grains, then a third party who both has a goat or trades in grain, is required. So Joel and Sarai spend the next few months seeking this magical being who may not exist to complete their transaction. Meanwhile the seasons are changing, so their needs are changing as well, which means more incomplete/untimely transactions.
Some people eventually began trading in Gold mined from the rivers and mountainsides. Also some people from the desert seemed to have a lot of it too. (slavery)
And it captivated people and they used it to build massive cities and stuff.
Cities then coveted the material and converted it into coinage for the upperclass and to make things "fair" they would issue silver coins to the peons. So the lowly folk could go about their business while the bourgeoisie of their time, began to get stronger.
The same thing is happening in Bitcoin. Expect massive volatilities in the market. The bots are making the water real choppy, and avoid people persuading you to part with your BTC, unless your trading partner is willing to price goods and services in Bitcoin. Consider this. If you sell a product for 4x more than it costs you to make, and you recieve bitcoin for that good or service, you gain a buyin price 3 times lower than its current price and year over year that income will rise in value. With Bitcoin, Joel can buy his goat and Sarai can buy her grains, even from the comfort of their own home. Which also can be purchased with bitcoin.
People have been doing this as early as bitcoin has existed. The famous example, some guy wanted some pizza, he paid someone online using bitcoin to send them to his house.
If you really believe in bitcoin, ask to be paid in bitcoin, and use bitcoin for normal daily transactions. The person who recieves it can sell or hold or do one of the million other things you might do with Bitcoin.
One of the best experiences you can share with others is to send them some sats. Everything digital before bitcoin is able to be copied, and freely sent. Bitcoin is the first digital financial object that is globally and freely transactable. You cant lose it in the couch but you can lose the private keys.
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2020.05.17 17:54 anotheruser60 Abstaining from Sexual Immorality

N. B. Feel free to share this post in other communities and to those in need. The more people helped, the better. If this has benefited you in anyway, please do leave a comment.
Below is a very practical post, created to help people abstain from pornography and/or masturbation. It is broadly divided into two sections. The first section is what Christianity and the Scriptures say about sexual matters, and the second section is short term and long term strategies to overcome PMO.
I will say it at the start, true victory comes through Christ. What does this mean? It means that you must be willing to change your ways and then believe upon the Lord Jesus, who died on the cross two thousand years ago to forgive you of your sins. To fight the 'flesh', the carnal nature that you have, you need the Spirit of God, and this only comes through faith in Christ, a Christ who saves us from our sins, yes, even our sexual sins.
If you are unsure of your salvation and if you're heart is not right with God, please don't delay, seek God while you can :

Christian Sexual Ethics and Morality

Sex has become an obsession in the world, and particular, western society, today.
It is estimated that 30 percent of all data transferred across the Internet is pornography. Many films produced by Hollywood contain nudity and soft-core pornography. Children are taught Sex Education in our schools, with the curriculum widening each year. Media networks write articles and report on it. 64% of young people, ages 13-24, actively seek out pornography weekly or more often. (Barna Group)
A hundred years ago, in Protestant and Catholic Europe, things were not as they are now. Much has changed, but "sexual obsession" is nothing new.
For example, in Ancient Rome, prostitution was "legal, public and widespread." Pornographic paintings were featured among the art collections in respectable upperclass households. Pederasty was practised.
After WWI in Berlin, prostitution arose, initially as a means of survival for desperate women, but and became normalised in the 1920s, including youths of both genders. The German army issued coupons for sexual services at approved brothels. Thrill-seekers came to Berlin to frequent the erotic night entertainment venues. Berlin even had a museum of sexuality during the Weimar period.

Sexuality in Scripture

The Bible was written by men who transcribed the revelation of God. To understand the views of God in regards to His finest creation, one must have a good knowledge of His Scriptures.
The apostle Paul wrote extensively on sexual matters, and Christ also spoke against lust, fornication and adultery:
Romans 13:13 - 13 Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy.
Galatians 5:19-21 - 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 - 1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
1 Corinthians 6:18 - 18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
Matthew 19:8-9 - 8 He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
Matthew 5:27-28 - 27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Leviticus 18

The Bible is clear. Pre-marital sex, pornography, lustful looking, adultery, orgies, etc. are all sins, transgressions of God's Law. The Law, the Old Testament, shows us that we have failed to live up to God's standard, but fortunately, God sent His Son (a Person of the Trinity), Jesus Christ to die on a cross 2000 years ago for yours and my sin, so that if we have faith in Him, our sins might be forgiven and we may have eternal life! Now that is a love that lasts.
Though we obtain salvation through faith in Jesus Christ, we are still tempted by the Devil to return to former ways. God will sanctify us and make us more like Christ but we have to cooperate in this sanctification process.
Below is some information and a plan of action, to help you find relief from the temptations of the flesh. I pray a prayer, that we all might be released from the grip and slavery of the vice of pornography and sexual immorality.

N.B. if you are using a mobile smartphone, when you reach the tables below, you may have to scroll left to see all the columns.

SHORT TERM KNOWLEDGE

In the fight against sexual immorality, I believe it is helpful to break the fight down into short term and long term knowledge and strategies.
1. Learn about the Addiction Cycle
https://preview.redd.it/jh5rxumcrfq41.png?width=246&format=png&auto=webp&s=002f690a373a8abb77ec97ec07ae265d8f83f5ac
  1. Stress trigger e.g. studies, relationships, sleep deprivation, expectations, etc.
  2. PMO
  3. Guilt and remorse
  4. Shame and depression
  5. Recommitment
  6. Abstinence
2. If you suffer from porn-induced OCD, learn some management techniques
3. Recognise that you are NOT alone in your struggle
1 Cor. 10:13 - 13 No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
4. Recognise that you have been born into a cultural war. The Sexual Revolution, starting in the 1950s, has gathered pace and forced our parliaments to change its laws so that we, later descendants, would be burdened down by sexual immorality and vice. Despite previous generations allowing this sin, we must take responsibility for our own actions. A brief overview of the key events in the Sexual Revolution:
https://preview.redd.it/2pl55tc2sfq41.png?width=544&format=png&auto=webp&s=d1af06aba49fd1e9062104900bf44c4440cf452b
5. Tell and involve a trusted friend, church member? Although this is not a necessary step, many people have found this a healthy thing to do. Your friend may also struggle with the same problem and both of you may benefit be confiding in each other. Older church members may be able to give you good advice, however, it should be noted, that few of them will understand totally your predicament as porn was not so readily available back then and people did not really talk about sexual matters. Church counsellors are a safer bet, as they won’t attend your church and are likely to have no barriers when it comes to talking about sexual matters.
6. Recognise that you are most at risk when you are H.A.L.T. – Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
7. Research the Allen Carr Method – PMO EasyWay book download - https://www.pdfhost.net/index.php?Action=Download&File=1be79b10d1b533c2030f2ee2f2e65405
Introduction to the method (applied to smoking in the video, but it is equally applicable to PMO) can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TL2Vh7goJc
Myth Truth
“PMO’ers need willpower to quit” Allen Carr's EasyWay requires no willpower
“PMO relieves stress” PMO increases stress
“PMO helps me to concentrate” PMO impedes concentration
"PMO helps me sleep" PMO worsens the quality of sleep
“PMO relieves boredom” PMO increases boredom
Stress, lack of concentration, sleep deprivation and boredom are, according to the Addiction Cycle above, all triggers for PMO.
The realisation of Allen Carr is that the act of smoking/PMO/drug taking etc. creates the symptoms with which the next cigarette/orgasm/injection etc. relieves. Therefore, the best time to stop is not tomorrow or next week, but rather today. Stop creating symptoms that you will then relieve through PMO.

Strategy

  1. Register using your email
  2. Create a Custom Goal e.g. NoPMO
  3. Set the length of the goal e.g. at least longer than 27 days
  4. Set a stake e.g. $50 or $5/week
  5. Get a friend to become your Accountability Partner
  6. Use the Journal Log to document your progress
  7. When the goal is completed, consider starting a new one, that is much longer
On Streaks:
The success of a streak is not the length but rather the quality. During a streak, you should occupy yourself as much as possible, either in work, studies, outdoors etc.
Isaac Newton; "The way to chastity is not to struggle directly with incontinent thoughts but to avert the thoughts by some imployment, or by reading, or meditating on other things"
On Relapsing

LONG TERM KNOWLEDGE

To truly stay away from the evils of pornography and masturbation, one needs a deeper understanding of the problem.
1. Contemplate the evils of the industry. Many people think that the porn industry and the sex trafficking industry are completely separate, however, this is not true. By watching pornography, you are generating demand, through your views, for more underage women to be exploited in horrific ways (note, we acknowledge that not all porn is non-consensual). As Christians, we should run a million miles away from industries that make profit from devaluing any humans, who are ALL made in the image of God, and who all deserve a chance at life, where they don't have to carry sexual guilt and shame around for the rest of their life, not to mention, the disease they could contract.
Additionally, porn can costs childhoods. Studies show a 1-in-14 chance of a child typing in a misspelled URL and stumbling upon a porn site by accident.
2. Meditate on the loneliness of the act. If this were a normal behaviour, why does one feel uncomfortable doing it in public? Why does one do it often in the dark, away from others? Is it because our subconscious knows that it is wrong? This rule can apply to most things: if you would not be willing to do it in the open, do not do it.
3. Consider the origins of pornography
Have you ever wondered who produces the content that many consume? Have you ever wondered why it is hard to track down the owners of pornography sites?
Below is a list of some not-so-pleasant people who are owners of the top global pornography sites. Investigate and read for yourself if you want, what kind of people they are and whether you want to be under their influence.
Have you ever wondered why it is offered for free?
It is because porn is a "weapon", a tool of perception. By warping individuals' minds, sexual dysfunction can split relationships apart and stop women from living their life to the fullest.
If it is made free, more people will consume it, and more people will be weakened and not live their best life. Do not believe that these individuals have your best interests at heart. They want to use you, to make themselves rich and famous, regardless if your life is ruined or damaged.
4. How pornography warps our perceptions of intimacy
Peggy Orenstein: “Porn is much more accessible, and at much younger ages. Because there’s so much of it, and because it’s trying to be competitive with itself to get more viewers, it becomes more extreme. It presents an image of sexuality that is about as realistic as pro-wrestling and an image of women and women’s bodies and women’s pleasure that is about as accurate as ‘The Real Housewives’ is to marriage… Everything in porn is a performance, and it’s encouraging girls to see sex as a performance and boys to see girls’ sexuality as a performance.”
Exploitation:
Organisation Findings
International Labor Organization (ILO) 4.5 million people are trapped or forced into sexual exploitation globally.
Thorn In one survey, 63% of underage sex trafficking victims said they had been advertised or sold online.
ILO While only 22% of global trafficking victims are trafficked for sex, sexual exploitation earns 66% of the global profits from human trafficking. The average annual profit generated by each woman in forced sexual servitude ($100,000) is estimated to be six times more than the average profits generated by each trafficking victim worldwide ($21,800)
Rescue:Freedom In 9 countries, 49% of sexually exploited women said that pornography was made of them while they were being sold for sex.
Below are some scientific and scriptural reasons, backed up by evidence, that show pornography to be a menace to our bodies, minds and souls.
Scientific
Reason Evidence
It will lead to escalation in genre and potentially to acting out https://fightthenewdrug.org/why-consuming-porn-is-an-escalating-behavio
It increases social anxiety and weakens your confidence https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/is-porn-making-my-social-anxiety-confidence-depression-anxiety-ocd-bipolar-worse/
It will ruin intimacy in marriage https://www.verywellmind.com/is-pornography-destroying-your-marriage-2302509
It can triggeaggravate depression, particularly if the content is traumatic to the viewer https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/inside-porn-addiction/201111/can-pornography-trigger-depression
It increases the concentration of DeltaFosB in the brain, leading to dependency and mental impairment https://www.nhs.uk/news/neurology/watching-porn-associated-with-male-brain-shrinkage/
It may cause ‘sex headaches’ https://www.jonbarron.org/article/pornography-headaches
Scriptural
Reason Evidence
It will lead to other sins Romans 1:28-31
Your inheritance of the kingdom of God is at stake Galatians 5:19-21
It will rob you of your peace Psalm 119:165
It will diminish your assurance of faith 2 Cor. 13:5
You sin against your own body 1 Cor. 6:18
It will sear your conscience 1 Timothy 4:2
You grieve the Holy Spirit Ephesians 4:30

Strategies

1. Cultivate a practice of Spiritual Thoughtfulness
2. Memorise relevant scriptures
3. Exchange lies for truth
Lie Truth
“God is stingy” God is good – Deuteronomy 10:12-13
“Sinful pleasures are filling” Sinful pleasures are fleeting – Hebrews 11:24-26
“People are objects” People are image bearers – Genesis 1:27
“Sexual sin is harmless” Sexual sin is defrauding – 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6
“I can turn back to God whenever I want” You may harden your heart to such a point that you don’t want to turn back – Hebrews 3:13
“My past defines me” Christ’s blood defines you - 1 Corinthians 6:11
“I have no option but to give into temptation” God provides a way of escape – 1 Corinthians 10:13
4. Join online communities that encourage you in your faith
e.g. Facebook groups
5. Make a practice of prayer and confession
6. Female individuals who struggled with lust but gained victory:

Summary

IN CLOSING

Closing Quotes:
"Sex is the mysticism of materialism and the only possible religion in a materialistic society" Malcolm Muggeridge

"If God is dead, somebody is going to have to take his place. It will be megalomania or erotomania, the drive for power or the drive for pleasure, the clenched fist, or the phallus, Hitler or Hugh Hefner." Malcolm Muggeridge

Pornography. Literally, the writing of harlots; the depiction of erotic behaviour intended to cause sexual excitement. Since sex is of almost universal interest, allusions to it are legitimate and necessary if dramatic or literary descriptions of human life are to be truthful or educative; but an enormous market exists for those who exploit sex for gain. Psychologically, the over-stimulation of imagination by sexual images renders the whole personality oversexed by disproportionately concentrating thought and desire, often to the point of pornographic addiction; it coarsens feelings and attitudes toward the other sex as tools for sexual indulgence, unrefined by affection, tenderness, or respect; it inverts the sex drive into sterile, self-absorbed, physical pleasure alone - "mental masturbation"; and because over-stimulation brings diminishing effects, it leads readily to mental indulgence in increasingly coarser, sadistic perversions - "hardcore" pornography.
Socially, the problems are protection of the immature and unstable; the danger that the emotions stimulated may erupt in antisocial sexual aggressiveness; the tendency to devalue women (mainly) and marriage; and the effect of sensualist displays and opportunities on the whole tone of society. Legally, suppression of "obscenely offensive" materials has been difficult to enforce because of variable public taste and the unanswerable statement, "The offensiveness is all in the viewer's mind".
Christians acknowledge the obligation to preserve purity of mind and heart. Jesus condemned the lustful look as equivalent to adultery, and declared the only defilement was that which comes from within (Matt. 5:28; Mark 7:20). The NT abounds in warnings concerning lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes, concupiscence, uncleanness, following the inclination to sensuality, and "the cravings of our sinful nature" (Eph. 2:3) on the principle that as we think, so we are. The Christian response to pornography is: "Clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature. ... Whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things". The Concise Evangelical Dictionary of Theology, R. E. O. White on Pornography
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2020.04.02 18:31 southernenglishbede Required Knowledge and Strategies for Sexual Self-control

Required Knowledge and Strategies for Sexual Self-control
N. B. the full and updated version of this post can be found here. Feel free to share this post in other communities and to those in need. The more people helped, the better.
Below is a practical post, created to help people abstain from pornography and/or masturbation. It is broadly divided into two sections. The first section is what Christianity and the Scriptures say about sexual matters, and the second section is short term and long term strategies to overcome PMO.
I will say it at the start, true victory comes through Christ. What does this mean? It means that you must be willing to change your ways and then believe upon the Lord Jesus, who died on the cross two thousand years ago to forgive you of your sins. To fight the 'flesh', the carnal nature that you have, you need the Spirit of God, and this only comes through faith in Christ, a Christ who saves us from our sins, yes, even our sexual sins.
If you are unsure of your salvation and if you're heart is not right with God, please don't delay, seek God while you can :

Christian Sexual Ethics and Morality

Sex has become an obsession in the world, and particular, western society, today.
It is estimated that 30 percent of all data transferred across the Internet is pornography. Many films produced by Hollywood contain nudity and soft-core pornography. Children are taught Sex Education in our schools, with the curriculum widening each year. Media networks write articles and report on it. 64% of young people, ages 13-24, actively seek out pornography weekly or more often. (Barna Group)
A hundred years ago, in Protestant and Catholic Europe, things were not as they are now. Much has changed, but "sexual obsession" is nothing new.
For example, in Ancient Rome, prostitution was "legal, public and widespread." Pornographic paintings were featured among the art collections in respectable upperclass households. Pederasty was practised.
After WWI in Berlin, prostitution arose, initially as a means of survival for desperate women, but and became normalised in the 1920s, including youths of both genders. The German army issued coupons for sexual services at approved brothels. Thrill-seekers came to Berlin to frequent the erotic night entertainment venues. Berlin even had a museum of sexuality during the Weimar period.
Are there any dangers to a sexually-obsessed society?
Definitely.
Pitirim Sorokin, a Russian sociologist, found that virtually all political revolutions that brought societal collapse were preceded by a sexual revolution in which marriage and family were devalued.
J. D. Unwin, author of Sex and Culture (1934), is quoted as saying; "in human records there is no instance of a society retaining its energy after a complete new generation has inherited a tradition which does not insist on pre-nuptial and post-nuptial continence."
How does an unhealthy preoccupation with sex endanger individuals and the collective?
  • People become distracted and therefore blind to the external threats to their society e.g. infiltration and subversion, foreign armies, environmental degradation etc.
  • People care less about what goes on within their society e.g. injustices, liberties being lost, disease, education etc.
  • Sex overloads the dopamine receptors which causes less people to enjoy the small pleasures in life in the way they used to. Academic studies and athletic pursuits all suffer for the sexually-obsessed.
  • Increased sexual activity almost always leads to the outbreak of new venereal diseases, which can wreak havoc on a society's population
Clearly, a pornographic culture is evident in the West today, but how should we respond to this?
Only by repenting and believing upon Jesus Christ, can the chains of sexual sin be truly loosed.

Sexuality in Scripture

The Bible was written by men who transcribed the revelation of God. To understand the views of God in regards to His finest creation, man, one must have a good knowledge of His Scriptures.
The apostle Paul is the most prolific writer on sexuality, but Jesus also talked about lust and adultery. The Patristic Fathers followed in their footsteps, advocating chastity and sexual self-control.

Romans 13:13 - 13 Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy.
Galatians 5:19-21 - 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 - 1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
1 Corinthians 6:18 - 18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
Matthew 19:8-9 - 8 He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
Matthew 5:27-28 - 27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Leviticus 18

The Bible is clear. Pre-marital sex, pornography, lustful looking, adultery, orgies, etc. are all sins, transgressions of God's Law. The Law, the Old Testament, shows us that we have failed to live up to God's standard, but fortunately, God sent His Son (a Person of the Trinity), Jesus Christ to die on a cross 2000 years ago for yours and my sin, so that if we have faith in Him, our sins might be forgiven and we may have eternal life! Now that is a love that lasts.
Though we obtain salvation through faith in Jesus Christ, we are still tempted by the Devil to return to former ways. God will sanctify us and make us more like Christ but we have to cooperate in this sanctification process.
Below is some information and a plan of action, to help you find relief from the temptations of the flesh. I pray a prayer, that we all might be released from the grip and slavery of the vice of pornography and sexual immorality.

N.B. if you are using a mobile smartphone, when you reach the tables below, you may have to scroll left to see all the columns.

SHORT TERM KNOWLEDGE

In the fight against sexual immorality, I believe it is helpful to break the fight down into short term and long term knowledge and strategies.
1. Learn about the Addiction Cycle
https://preview.redd.it/jh5rxumcrfq41.png?width=246&format=png&auto=webp&s=002f690a373a8abb77ec97ec07ae265d8f83f5ac
2. If you suffer from porn-induced OCD, learn some management techniques
  • The Schwartz OCD 4 Steps Rule: https://hope4ocd.com/foursteps.php
  • When compulsions arise, recognise that nothing happens if you refuse to act. Nothing dreadful is going to happen to you. Just allow the thought to pass over your mind, through one ear and out the other. It may help to visualise this.
3. Recognise that you are NOT alone in your struggle
1 Cor. 10:13 - 13 No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
  • "In terms of basic results, they found that 73 percent of women and 98 percent of men reported internet porn use in the last six months, for a total of 85 percent of respondents. For porn use within the last week, the numbers were lower: 80 percent of men and 26 percent of women." Psychology Today
  • "Thirty-seven percent of male clergy of various faith traditions report Internet pornography as "being a current struggle," and 57 percent of that group report compulsive Internet pornography use, according to a paper, "The Internet and Pornography,"" NCR Online
  • Know that there are many testimonies of people that have overcome their dependency to internet pornography. These can be found on YouTube or websites through a simple Google search.
4. Recognise that you have been born into a cultural war. The Sexual Revolution, starting in the 1950s, has gathered pace and forced our parliaments to change its laws so that we, later descendants, would be burdened down by sexual immorality and vice. Despite previous generations allowing this sin, we must take responsibility for our own actions. A brief overview of the key events in the Sexual Revolution:
https://preview.redd.it/2pl55tc2sfq41.png?width=544&format=png&auto=webp&s=d1af06aba49fd1e9062104900bf44c4440cf452b
5. Tell and involve a trusted friend, church member? Although this is not a necessary step, many people have found this a healthy thing to do. Your friend may also struggle with the same problem and both of you may benefit be confiding in each other. Older church members may be able to give you good advice, however, it should be noted, that few of them will understand totally your predicament as porn was not so readily available back then and people did not really talk about sexual matters. Church counsellors are a safer bet, as they won’t attend your church and are likely to have no barriers when it comes to talking about sexual matters.
6. Recognise that you are most at risk when you are H.A.L.T. – Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
7. Research the Allen Carr Method – PMO EasyWay book download - https://www.pdfhost.net/index.php?Action=Download&File=1be79b10d1b533c2030f2ee2f2e65405
Introduction to the method (applied to smoking in the video, but it is equally applicable to PMO) can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TL2Vh7goJc
Myth Truth
“PMO’ers need willpower to quit” Allen Carr's EasyWay requires no willpower
“PMO relieves stress” PMO increases stress
“PMO helps me to concentrate” PMO impedes concentration
"PMO helps me sleep" PMO worsens the quality of sleep
“PMO relieves boredom” PMO increases boredom
Stress, lack of concentration, sleep deprivation and boredom are, according to the Addiction Cycle above, all triggers for PMO.
The realisation of Allen Carr is that the act of smoking/PMO/drug taking etc. creates the symptoms with which the next cigarette/orgasm/injection etc. relieves. Therefore, the best time to stop is not tomorrow or next week, but rather today. Stop creating symptoms that you will then relieve through PMO.

Strategy

  1. Register using an email
  2. Create a Custom Goal e.g. NoPMO, NoFap etc.
  3. Set the length of the goal e.g. 7, 14, 21 days etc. (above 27 the better)
  4. Set a stake e.g. £50/goal or £5/week
  5. Set a daily reminder on your phone e.g. "stickK - nofap - £5"
  6. Optional: get someone to become your Accountability Partner (AP)
  7. Use the Journal Log to document your progress
  8. When the goal is completed, consider starting a new one, that is much longer
  • Install blockers on internet browsers e.g. Foxfilter, Blocksite, Adult Blocker
  • Leave seductive social media e.g. Instagram, Snapchat, Tumblr, Tinder, etc.
On Streaks:
The success of a streak is not the length but rather the quality. During a streak, you should occupy yourself as much as possible, either in work, studies, outdoors etc.
Isaac Newton; "The way to chastity is not to struggle directly with incontinent thoughts but to avert the thoughts by some imployment, or by reading, or meditating on other things"
  • Never put faith in the length of your streak as pride will follow. "Pride commeth before a fall."
  • Expect relapses early on. The pleasure-centre of the brain takes time to recover.
On Relapsing
  • Pray and ask for forgiveness but appropriate the forgiveness that comes through Christ. Emotion is understandable but don't give way to wallowing in self-pity (this will only allow Satan to gain a foothold). Upon confession, try not to dwell upon the setback again, trusting that God really has forgiven you, as His Word declares He will.
  • Read through Psalm 51 and meditate on its truth. Psalm 51 is one of the penitential psalms and it is traditionally claimed to have been composed by king David as a confession to God after he sexually sinned with Bathsheba.
  • Do not be tempted to think that because you have relapsed that you can do so again; when you get into a damp and stinky trench, you climb out as soon as you can.
  • Do not think too much about the length of the streak: if you can, focus on the general trend of greater control over your sexual impulses, as evidenced through longer and longer streaks.
On nocturnal emissions (wet dreams)
As the length of the streak grows, the chance of a nocturnal emission increases.
I am of the opinion that such an occurrence is not a relapse, as it is involuntary, regardless of whether is was accompanied by a lustful dream or not.
One must be careful not to allow such an occurrence to tempt one to a deliberate relapse. After a few days, the immediate memory of it will pass, setting back on course again. However, if you are not married, and will not be for some time, you will have to learn to live with these happenings.

LONG TERM KNOWLEDGE

To truly stay away from the evils of pornography and masturbation, one needs a deeper understanding of the problem.

1. Meditate on the Western concept of nudity. This may seem an odd remark but I believe this thought may prove of use. In more primitive societies, especially ones that are hot, women tend to not wear many clothes, therefore exposing their legs, arms and breasts. Now, because this was and still is their cultural norm, the men in those societies were and are less stimulated by the images of female nudity, than we are in the West, where the norm is where women cover the bodies, thus creating a taboo out of nudity. Now, I am neither endorsing one or the other, because clothing is often solely linked to the environmental climate in which people live, but I am saying that our Western reaction to nudity is somewhat socially and cultural constructed.
2. Meditate on the loneliness of the act. If this were a normal behaviour, why does one feel uncomfortable doing it in public? Why does one do it often in the dark, away from others? Is it because our subconscious knows that it is wrong? This rule can apply to most things: if you would not be willing to do it in the open, do not do it.
3. Contemplate the evils of the industry. Many people think that the porn industry and the sex trafficking industry are completely separate, however, this is not true. By watching pornography, you are generating demand, through your views, for more underage women to be exploited in horrific ways (note, we acknowledge that not all porn is non-consensual). As Christians, we should run a million miles away from industries that make profit from devaluing any humans, who are ALL made in the image of God, and who all deserve a chance at life, where they don't have to carry sexual guilt and shame around for the rest of their life, not to mention, the disease they could contract.
Additionally, porn can costs childhoods. Studies show a 1-in-14 chance of a child typing in a misspelled URL and stumbling upon a porn site by accident.
4. Consider the owners and producers of hard-core pornography
Have you ever wondered who produces the content that many consume? Have you ever wondered why it is hard to track down the owners of pornography sites?
Below is a list of some not-so-pleasant people who are owners of the top global pornography sites. Investigate and read for yourself if you want, what kind of people they are and whether you want to be under their influence.
Have you ever wondered why it is offered for free?
It is because porn is a "weapon", a tool of perception. By warping minds, sexual dysfunction can split relationships apart and stop men reaching their full potential: stop men turning the tables on the sexualised society.
If it is made free, more people will consume it, and more people will be weakened and not live their best life. Do not believe that these individuals have your best interests at heart. They want to use you, to make themselves rich and famous, regardless if your life is ruined or damaged.
5. How pornography warps our perceptions of intimacy
Peggy Orenstein: “Porn is much more accessible, and at much younger ages. Because there’s so much of it, and because it’s trying to be competitive with itself to get more viewers, it becomes more extreme. It presents an image of sexuality that is about as realistic as pro-wrestling and an image of women and women’s bodies and women’s pleasure that is about as accurate as ‘The Real Housewives’ is to marriage… Everything in porn is a performance, and it’s encouraging girls to see sex as a performance and boys to see girls’ sexuality as a performance.”
Exploitation:
Organisation Findings
International Labor Organization (ILO) 4.5 million people are trapped or forced into sexual exploitation globally.
Thorn In one survey, 63% of underage sex trafficking victims said they had been advertised or sold online.
ILO While only 22% of global trafficking victims are trafficked for sex, sexual exploitation earns 66% of the global profits from human trafficking. The average annual profit generated by each woman in forced sexual servitude ($100,000) is estimated to be six times more than the average profits generated by each trafficking victim worldwide ($21,800)
Rescue:Freedom In 9 countries, 49% of sexually exploited women said that pornography was made of them while they were being sold for sex.
Below are some scientific and scriptural reasons, backed up by evidence, that show pornography to be a menace to our bodies, minds and souls.
Scientific
Reason Evidence
It will lead to escalation in genre and potentially to acting out https://fightthenewdrug.org/why-consuming-porn-is-an-escalating-behavio
It increases social anxiety and weakens your confidence https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/is-porn-making-my-social-anxiety-confidence-depression-anxiety-ocd-bipolar-worse/
It will ruin intimacy in marriage https://www.verywellmind.com/is-pornography-destroying-your-marriage-2302509
It can triggeaggravate depression, particularly if the content is traumatic to the viewer https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/inside-porn-addiction/201111/can-pornography-trigger-depression
It increases the concentration of DeltaFosB in the brain, leading to dependency and mental impairment https://www.nhs.uk/news/neurology/watching-porn-associated-with-male-brain-shrinkage/
It may decrease your testosterone levels which could cause erectile dysfunction, reduced bone mass, hair loss etc. https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/any-connection-between-orgasm-abstinence-and-testosterone-levels/has-too-much-masturbation-decreased-my-testosterone-levels/ and https://www.healthline.com/health/side-effects-of-low-testosterone
It may cause ‘sex headaches’ https://www.jonbarron.org/article/pornography-headaches
Scriptural
Reason Evidence
It can lead to other sins Romans 1:28-31
Your inheritance in the kingdom of God is at stake Galatians 5:19-21
It will rob you of your peace Psalm 119:165
It will diminish your assurance of faith 2 Cor. 13:5
You sin against your own body 1 Cor. 6:18
You will grieve the Holy Spirit Ephesians 4:30
It will sear your conscience 1 Timothy 4:2

Strategies

1. Cultivate a practice of Spiritual Thoughtfulness
  • Think of your hour of death. Will you be pleased with yourself for doing such actions? Will you want to look back on your life, and wish you had lived a life of obedient faith more?
  • Think of yourself stood before Christ, to receive reward for the deeds done in the body. Are you positively contributing positively towards your treasures in Heaven?
  • Think upon the power of God and the forgiving power of Christ and how greater they are when compared to the power of darkness and Satan
  • Consider the physical and social consequences of such actions
  • Consider the immediate spiritual consequences of such actions
  • Consider that we may be close to the return of Christ and how we should want to receive Him and be received by Him as a holy people
2. Memorise relevant scriptures
  • Romans 8:1
  • 1 Corinthians 6:18
  • 1 Corinthians 6:11
  • John 6:37
  • Hebrews 2:18
3. Exchange lies for truth
Lie Truth
“God is stingy” God is good – Deuteronomy 10:12-13
“Sinful pleasures are filling” Sinful pleasures are fleeting – Hebrews 11:24-26
“People are objects” People are image bearers – Genesis 1:27
“Sexual sin is harmless” Sexual sin is defrauding – 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6
“I can turn back to God whenever I want” You may harden your heart to such a point that you don’t want to turn back – Hebrews 3:13
“My past defines me” Christ’s blood defines you - 1 Corinthians 6:11
“I have no option but to give into temptation” God provides a way of escape – 1 Corinthians 10:13
4. Join online communities that encourage you in your faith
e.g. Facebook groups
5. Make a ‘covenant with your eyes’
  • Job 31:1-4 - 1 “I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin? 2 What would be my portion from God above and my heritage from the Almighty on high? 3 Is not calamity for the unrighteous, and disaster for the workers of iniquity? 4 Does not he see my ways and number all my steps?
6. Make a practice of prayer and confession
  • Relationship with Christ, is developed and cultivated through prayer and confession. Although Christ has forgiven every sin at the Cross, we still need to confess our sins before Him (1 John 1:9). You will feel so much better after giving the burden of sin to Christ.
7. Individuals who struggled with lust but gained victory:

Summary

  • If one is to live, one should live a peaceful and clean life
  • Sex is not our god, but rather we serve the creator God, I AM
  • One is not alone in this struggle, and your struggle with sin is a good sign
  • We are in the midst of a cultural war, that started probably before we were born. And this cultural war is really the earthly manifestation of a battle in the heavenlies.
  • Willpower is not required to defeat this "learned habit". Once one realises that relapse creates the symptoms for the next relapse to "relieve", one realises the game and trick that has been played on them, and can then gain victory.
  • Hunger, anger, loneliness and fatigue are possible vulnerable states.
  • NEVER place pride in one's streak.
  • Recall the evil of the industry. Does one want to contribute towards this?
  • Recall the Addiction Cycle. Recognise the reality of this.
  • Recall the health consequences, mental and physical: depression, lower self-esteem, guilt, escalation in content, loss of intimacy, loss of peace, diminishing of faith etc.
  • Exchange lies for truth, using scripture as a standard.
  • Use StickK and ALWAYS put a money stake up. If money is used, you are more likely to achieve your goal.
  • Recognise that many believers in the past struggled with such lust, overcame it, and became famous believers, with a close relationship with God.
  • Believe Christ really is the bread of life: “whoever believes has eternal life. I am the bread of life” (John 6:47-48).

Concluding Quotes:

"Sex was designed by God to be linked to procreation and marriage. It was not meant to be a full-time obsession."

"Sex is the mysticism of materialism and the only possible religion in a materialistic society... If God is dead, somebody is going to have to take his place. It will be megalomania or erotomania, the drive for power or the drive for pleasure, the clenched fist, or the phallus, Hitler or Hugh Hefner." Malcolm Muggeridge

Pornography. Literally, the writing of harlots; the depiction of erotic behaviour intended to cause sexual excitement. Since sex is of almost universal interest, allusions to it are legitimate and necessary if dramatic or literary descriptions of human life are to be truthful or educative; but an enormous market exists for those who exploit sex for gain. Psychologically, the over-stimulation of imagination by sexual images renders the whole personality oversexed by disproportionately concentrating thought and desire, often to the point of pornographic addiction; it coarsens feelings and attitudes toward the other sex as tools for sexual indulgence, unrefined by affection, tenderness, or respect; it inverts the sex drive into sterile, self-absorbed, physical pleasure alone - "mental masturbation"; and because over-stimulation brings diminishing effects, it leads readily to mental indulgence in increasingly coarser, sadistic perversions - "hardcore" pornography.

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2020.03.12 05:02 Isabel5215 Extra Curricular Advice?

Hi, I am white, upperclass, female and I live in a rich and academically competitive area. I am a freshman in high school (15 years old), so I definitely don’t know what college I want to go to (although I love Cornell), but I am trying to keep my hopes realistic as there are going to be tons of more qualified applicants who are smarter, doing more extra curriculars, and are more deserving of the spots.
That being said I want to optimize my chances of getting into good colleges and I am looking for advice. I am passionate about politics, law, and writing.
Here are my academics:
This year: all honor and AP Government (aiming for a 5 on the exam since it is my favorite subject)
Next year: All Honors, APUSH, AP Computer science, and AP Comparative Government.
GPA unweighted: 3.93 (which is low for a freshman in my school ): )
Here are my extra curriculars:
-I am a district intern for a delegate (I go to meetings, write memos, deal w paperwork)
-Opinion writer of a county wide student newspaper (on track to be a section editor next year).
-Vice President of my schools Democrats club
-Co founded and President of a chapter of a county wide student immigration alliance and advocacy organization at my school (currently making their website right now!)
-Biweekly newsletter writer for a local political advocacy group and I run their twitter
-Member of a peer tutoring program at my school
-Intern at a teen court/hear court cases and make decisions about fair punishments
Any advice on beefing up my extracurriculars/being more competitive? All my extra curricular are pretty average and don’t stand out. This is my first time using reddit so I hope this post isn’t too long or that I have broken rules. Thanks!
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2020.03.03 02:18 shortandginger In the 17th-19th centuries did upperclass women from British colonies engage in social season in England?

To my knowledge, social season in England was important in part because it helped upperclass women find potential marriage partners(and vice versa). So how did upperclass women from the colonies engage in social season? Were there smaller social seasons in their colonies or would they travel to England? I'm specifically asking about the colonies that required intensive travel, like colonies in the East Indies.
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2020.02.11 08:08 ConsistentInterview5 Morse/Endeavour Drinking Game

Hello! I love Morse, and I love drinking along with television and movies, so I thought, why not start a thread with some other fans and concoct a drinking game? I'll start with some basic rules and people may add them as they see fit. If they are specific to a series, I will mention that.

Drink When
Finish/Chug your drink when:
That's all for now. Looking forward to seeing other ideas! Long live Inspector Morse!
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2020.01.10 18:01 I_like_the_word_MUFF [Trigger Warning] I NEED to put back the Truth in my Narrative that my family lied about

Triggers will include: Sexual Molestation, Incest, Gas lighting, erased memories.
I'm at a moment in my life where my initial emotional psychological plans have now come in direct conflict with my present sanity and I just need to talk this out with you all. I am coming quickly to realize that I can no longer shield my family from my truth, just to keep whatever fragile peace they need. Thank you to whomever makes it through this. In truth, I need to just write this out to an audience and use you all as my rubber duck.
To start, I didn't start piecing together how terrible my childhood was until late in life. I knew of what happened to me, but had compressed the memories and compartmentalized them for years. Even as a young adult, my childhood molestation events were just emotionless videos in my memories--not connected to anything except perhaps shame. Shame for being so stupid and weak. I can remember 3 specific events, one as a pre-school aged child, once at about 2nd grade, and once when I was in fourth grade. One was two boys. One was my brother. One was a older boy who lived across the street.
The pre-school event is very vague, but I remember being examined by a strange and scary doctor after. I remember my parents being away for awhile (this was in another country) and my grandmother taking care of me. I remember shortly after, we moved. I remember the molestation because when I was in fourth grade, the third event triggered my memories on the first. My brother forced me to perform oral sex on him. I remember it in vivid detail. I remember everything he said. I remember everything I said. I remember the taste in my mouth. I remember all these things even more now since therapy has helped me open these compartmentalized memories and feel them...FEEL THEM IN ALL THEIR HORROR.
I'm 45. None of this mattered about 7 years ago. I was still married. My parents have always been a huge part of my life. They literally smothered me. They forced me to work with them when I was younger in their restaurants, instead of having friends and playing. When I got married, a year after I moved into my house with my spouse, my parents moved in with us. I had no real say in the matter. They had convinced everyone, including my husband, that this was the best thing. Until I was 35, my parents have always lived with me in some way. I tried to escape often, I spent years hitchiking and following the Grateful dead, but always coming home because Mom and Dad needed help. My brother was 7 years older than me...he flew the coop and never looked back. My brother was a stranger in my life. He was never the brother that worried about his little sister. Once when I was a young tween I asked him why he never asked me to hang out like my other friends older siblings-- He replied, "Because you are an embarrassment and why would I embarrass myself." This has always been my relationship with him, no matter how hard I wished for something better. I didn't even connect his sexual molestation of me with any of this until very late in life. I just passed it off as something kids do when they sexually explore. I was just there. Sharing a room with him because we lived in a two bedroom house.
Through all of this...my parents have either ignored it or lied to me about it. The first one, my parents knew and I am positive of this. I believe there was a court case and that scary doctor was in fact, a witness for the state examining me. I asked my grandmother once about these memories I had in a very benign way... she avoided it completely and then threw a bombshell at me, I had a half sister I didn't know about. So in one moment, I realized my parents and family were lying to me about memories I had been experiencing AND that they'd been lying to me about having a whole other family somewhere else...a sister!
Did they know about my brother? Shortly afterward, I remember my parents telling me that the landlords were going to fix the house and we moved for a week and when we came back I had my own room. Nobody has ever said anything since. The final event, well...I just didn't say anything because at that point, my parents had been gas-lighting me for so long that I questioned my own sanity... I became reclusive. I became what they wanted from me and then I had a whole other me that they never saw. Nobody saw. I stopped believing in my own thoughts and just believed everything they told me. I ate it all up and that's why it was so easy to smother me for three decades and still to this day...
Which leads me to my sanity. For a long while, between me, my therapist, my wonderful partner...we've all decided that it was best to know what I know is real and let my very elderly and very frail parents have the end of their life. I really didn't need anything from them. I had learned to separate myself from them far enough that our contact no longer smothered me. It was a delicate but sustainable balance. That is, until this holiday season. This holiday season, my brother, his wife, my mom and dad all decided it was good for them to come up for the holiday and visit me. I had just recently moved to a beautiful seaside community with a magical feel for tourists during the winter. It's literally a playground for the rich and famous, but very low key. I am only here because, life, has a funny way of rewarding you...not because I'm rich or even powerful. Let's just say, my family is a little bit confused on how I managed to step in such wonderful shit...since I am the "damaged" one in my family. See, being molested and not protected by your family leads you to make a lot of bad decisions and I made a lot of them. Some not my fault, like my parents need to smother me. No matter--I was always seen as the "embarrassment" of the family. My brother and his wife are the epitome of upperclass living, big house, big family, big vacations....christmas cards with professional modeling and makeup... you know. I am none of those things. So how did I get here? Sister in law's inquiring mind wanted to know.
But, that didn't come to pass...as fast as I got excited to show off my beautiful new house, beautiful new life they all started mealy mouthing out of it. First my Sis in law couldn't get her sister to come so she didn't want to. My brother just is an ass. My nieces decided they wanted to work. Finally, my parents were too frail to come. See...nobody wants to see me when I'm doing well, but damn it if they love to be all up in my shit when I'm down and they can kick me a few times and tell me how damaged I am compared to them. This was a big, giant, red, neon, flashing sign that it was time for me to just not give one more fuck about their feelings or their fragile 'reality' they created through lies and gaslighting me. The bloom was totally off the rose. I was no longer going to bend over, brush aside my pride, and let them talk down to me anymore. I let things slide but not really. I knew where I stood.
Two days ago my parents called and I was telling them I was thinking of moving temporarily until I could get settled in a new career. Job prospects weren't good here and my partner and I are growing tired of the situation overall. My parent's reaction? They started questioning me about "screwing up my good thing." about, "what if my partner doesn't want to come." and "but you just got back closer to the family." Again, the knee jerk reaction is to think I'm insane. Irrational. Irresponsible. I am actually none of those things and have proven it over and over again to myself and my friends and my partner. Nobody in my life thinks these things of me, except my family. Except them. Except the people who need me to believe I am insane to make their reality work for them. To make their gaslighting stories make sense they need me to be the irrational character.
That's the thing. I can't build my identity without adding back the black memories I compartmentalized in my head. They are important to my identity. Without these events, I am irrational. With them in my narrative, I am a strong recovering victim of abuse who managed to put a life together over and over again despite it all.
And so here I am. 6 pages in on a letter just pouring my life out at my parents and brother. It is my final straw...it is me, taking their lies and gaslighting and throwing it back at them and asking them, "Which one of us is the insane one? The adults who lied and lied and lied to a small child, a young girl, and a teenager and then used the symptoms of those lies to emotionally beat me with them or me, the 5 year old little girl who was molested by two boys and wanted somebody to protect her...her parents, her brother, her family... AND NOBODY STEPPED UP."
The adult in me knows the answer to that question.
Now is only me to do this with grace and honesty and I'm struggling on how to do this without destroying whatever time I have left with my parents. I don't know how to do that and stay true to myself. I don't know what to say that allows me my dignity and allows them to finish their lives knowing their daughter will still talk to them, still love them in her way. I need them to know that the tone in their voice needs to disappear, because the lie that tone hides is my truth. I am at a loss.
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2019.11.21 15:09 OldTimez 3rd week back to work and I'm already emotionally distraught.

Hello all, I just came out of a meeting with my line manager and I'm feeling really miserable and want someone to vent to. I am someone who suffers from long - term depression and have been suicidal for 8-10 years of my life.
I work at Waitrose in the UK. A food supermarket and targets middle to upperclass income salaries, and focuses on high end quality food products. I've been working in the company for 10 years now across 2 stores, my current one being almost 6 years now perhaps. I've started my job as a shelf filler for fruit and vegetables but as retail has had to reorganize for the "modern age," meant everyone in the store having to end up being flexible to fill multiple roles within the store now and making due with less people. I am now a replenishment person, cashier, delivery unloader, warehouse partner, outside phone line 1st line of call, operations and compliance / legal partner.
From 2017 I had been been a "core" staff at compliance and legal which has to ensure the store is "legal" to open and trade. I start in the morning at 6am and by 8am before shop opens I have to make sure:
Life was much, much simpler when all I had to worry about before was just filling out shelves and the frequent customer interaction. Ever since I've been moved into my new role I've had multiple breakdowns because I am pressured to ensure multiple deadlines must be met before shop opens, if I am unable to do so the store and myself are liable for charges. The rest of my day is spent being dragged around to all the various sections I'm trained in, with managers often going: "Why isn't this done," when I've been doing all matters of random shit, not to mention the customer that asks you in a foreign language something or "where's da carots" when they're bloody standing next to it.
I took a stress leave for half a year because of my multiple breakdowns, right after I got a investigation and warning for my many sick days off work due to my poor mental health, and seeked to try find employment elsewhere. However I was unsuccessful in getting a place, and being on overdraft had to go back to Waitrose to earn a wage. My 3rd week in I was dumped on the section myself this morning, still being in 'refreshing' mode I was unaware of the sever implications of not meeting the deadlines, and failing to find help to complete it / tell the whoever was on duty at the time. Soon as my line manager came in and saw morning checks were not done, rather than in a supportive way discuss how bad what happened was and told me what I should of done, I got a warning and a harsh talking to.
I'm already remembering how undervalued, uncared for, under extreme pressure and stress, just destroyed I was inside, back before I took my stress leave. However I'm broke and I have no where else to go. I really feel like I'm in a hole I can't get out of right now and I wish someone could save me.
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2019.04.01 02:59 bayarea415 Law School Hacks

So I am a Biglaw attorney who graduated law school about 10 months ago. Attended a T20 law school, 3.6 GPA, URM, on a journal, did app ad, won some academic awards, founded a diversity group, and assisted my law school with many other activities, from recruiting to individual counseling. I wanted to draw up a list of things that got me through law school
1. RELY ON THE INTERNET: So I was a first generation law school student that heavily relied on the internet for information on how to succeed. And that was the best decision I have ever made. I don't know how I could have landed where I am today if I did not know where to get outlines, how to take them, or even if my LSAT score was any good. OBVIOUSLY, there are many bad actors that push way too hard to persuade others that their scores dont mean squat, but there is a huge difference between having a 2.5 GPA and 148 LSAT score, and thinking you're the best thing since sliced bread for getting accepted to Montana School of Law, and not applying to any other law school other than HYS because you got a 175 LSAT and only one 4 noble peace prizes. Something require you to use your best judgment for more gray areas, but there is some advice that is easily dismissible. IF YOU ARE A URM STUDENT I know the internet can be extremely shallow and unkind to the identity struggles that go on within law. There are still some tips that you should consider despite this, BUT talking with others that are going though similar struggles can also be a huge help (at least mentally).
2. DO JOB FAIRS: Do not bank all your resumes and job hopes on OCIs (on campus interviews). I had more interviews at job fairs than I did in OCIs. Yes, registration is super early and a pain, but the job prospects are well worth it. I went from clerking with a judge in a little town my first year, to a V100 (vault 100) law firm my next. Also, as always, send out your resumes to other firms nonstop until you get a job. Never stop looking until you get an offer you are going to get ready to accept.
3. GET PRIOR OUTLINES: Outline depo saved my life for a couple of classes. Some outlines I got from there are literal word for word interpretations from professor lectures. I would take my own notes, and as I was compiling my outline, use those outlines to compare what I missed and how they applied the facts in certain scenarios. Some professors reuse examples or questions for finals and midterms as well, so this is where you can also gain substantially from others. ALSO, if you can get your hands on prior tests IN AN ETHICAL WAY, do so.
4. FOCUS ON GETTING GOOD GRADES: you are not winning any brownie points with employers if you take an extremely difficult class subject on business law from a "famous professor" that gives everyone a C average. Employers mainly focus on numbers, rather than substance when it comes to your GPA. Also, not matter what job you get, they will all treat you like you do not know anything your first year (some may throw you into the waters sooner than you think, but there are some obvious limits for first years that partners or supervisors have to consider to prevent liability/malpractice issues). Stack your classes that are GPA boosters to maximize your GPA.
5. NETWORK WITH SENIOR STUDENTS: Sometimes senior students also have some access that others do not. I had a friend who was an RA for a difficult professor. But she was able to get her hands on all the outlines and tests he used before since 2009. Again, this was ethical (she received them because the professor said "here used these however you want, I was just gonna throw them away anyways") and this saved me from that final. I also got some solid job advice from senior students, as well as fond memories that really go a long way. Get to know your upperclass students.
EXTRA FOR URM STUDENTS 6. DON'T PUT UP WITH BULLSHIT: There will be many individuals, whether they are students, professors, or administrators that will do things that make law school that much more of a struggle because of your identity. Microaggressions are alive and well in law school, and I know many people have told you to "just get thicker skin." This is true to a certain degree, but there's a time where a lot of dignity may be at stake, and you have to defend yourself, a friend, or your community. DO IT. You are a smart individual who has made it this far in the most competitive daunting environment where you MUST be intelligent enough to even attend. Find comfort in a network of friends who understand your struggle rather than cast judgment, and know you can be just as successful as anyone else, and you may have to fight for that position harder than the others.
PM me if you all have any other questions about this, and add any other hacks you may have below as well.
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2019.03.22 00:33 skrrrrrrrrrat Dream Journal

so i quit weed about three weeks ago and have been getting some wild af dreams so I'm going to get them down to boost my dream recollection as well as try recognize patterns that should turn them lucid in future, I've had multiple lucid dreams back in the day so i know what to do. Writing this down as a personal spot to collect my dreams but anyone can feel free to read
Writing this one the day after so my memory of it is hazy. Anyways, I'm in a Cessna 172 doing spin recoveries and it is going well till i suddenly realise i am way too close to ground. It is too late at this point as i am practically weaving this plane under power lines and in between buildings and shit. Powerlines seem to keep coming at me from nowhere and i can't get this plane to gain altitude. Finally i end up snapping the wing off on something in turn sent me crashing down. I was fine, pretty much stepped out of the bad boy unscathed and was more worried about the plane being wrecked and the money wasted. I wake up.
Had a dream where i went out with mates and this girl my friend liked started crushing on me serious. I have never met her in real life, she turns out to be quite the scoop and we hit it off pretty hard. End up having sex and wake up the next morning to find that my friends had all left and it was just her and i at the place we partied at. I remember seeing this as a passive aggressive move which was confirmed later on. I wake up in sweats. Falling back asleep again i entered into the same dream but this time I'm back at her place but its slightly different in layout, almost similar to a place i used to rent in that part of town. There was some serious dramas going down where her and her roommates were about to get evicted cause they were running late to show up for some court hearing or something. My friend took this as an opportunity to try help them out which i assumed was to try get in with this girl, at this point i also realised he was being hell salty towards me and basically not talking to me. At one point he threw a gym ball at the back of my head without word and when everyone questioned the behaviour he ignored them. Anyway, while waiting in this house with two other friends we shall call Cris and P, somehow weed got spilt everywhere and covered the place and this random girl from the street came up to chill out as we waited for everyone to get back up. Finally as people showed up at the door, i realised it was the girl with a few old friends i haven't seen in ages and my ex dressed up as Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz, she mentioned something about a play or something, i remember talking to her and cracking a sweet joke about her costume which kind of made this new girl jealous. We all back in the house and things seemed to have sorted out good. I then wake up again in sweats.
Huge family gathering. Playing switch with all my cousins which there were a lot. Loads of random people i don't recognize but are my family. Playing some bootleg version of Mario Kart that was available for free online, this pissed me off cause i paid 60 bucks for the real version and this was just as good. Was having a bunch of my art moved out along with various other things which was weird cause i don't make art irl cept maybe a few things from visual arts back at highschool. Was also having a bunch of my old books from highschool moved, so travel diaries, doodles and my book where i used to write raps to pass time at work loool aswell as some really personal letters from exes and stuff. Anyways, an aunt i am close to is reading all this shit and is clearly like "what in the fuck" (i got some real stupid shit written) i notice her reading my raps and i grabbed it real quick and said yea lets not do that and packed it with the rest of my stuff. My cousin was reading a letter from my ex and having giggle, i too snatched this and packed it up. All in all it was pretty funny, my family is close with me so them finding out about all these personal details didn't bother me too much. I then wake up. so tired tho might sleep again
Hella weird one this one. Gone to a farm house that my uncle got to do some reno as well as chill their for the night with family. Couple friends came to. I rode up there on this motorbike that had two wheels parallel at the front and a large rear tyre. One of my mates ill call LC and his mum came too and they had bikes but 2 rear and one in front (more on this later). Normal gathering stuff occurs but then eventually some of use turn into animals overnight. Mostly cats. I did not but when some of us go missing then in the morning randomly wake up naked from the spots where these cats were we figured this farm house had a weird curse. My cousin told me my aunt and uncle turned into cats and awoke next to each other naked in some cot when we were looking for them. My friends mum also did the same with this random bloke that came through. There was this like counsellor guy there that was going to hook meant to like mend my friends mums relationship with this other guy but failed so miserably even though they were a good match and i found this funny like some shit out of a comedy. It turned out well for them anyway cause they turned into cats and hung out and later was found together in some shrubs or some shit. We spoke about the bikes and apparently the model i had with the two smaller wheels at the front was faster than the ones with two in the back. Fucking weird as fuck lol and kind of personal in a way. Man im fucked up haha. It was the next day in my dream apparently we had to try fix these low hanging powerlines. I wake up at this point. Might fall back asleep though still heaps tired.
March 26
Ok so three dreams here but i only remember pieces of them now: At an airport where i was in a lift and had to shower for some reason, i was in some kind if rush so i showered in the lift cause there was one in there lol i then realised i had no towel so im soaking wet and had to put my clothes on still wet when i realise the lift was about to open. The doors open and im buttnaked just holding my dick to cover it in front of this shocked family, they dont get in and the doors close so i get changed. At this same airport i am met by this gay couple, they were close friends but in real life i dont recognize them. One of them and i go into this bargain store to pick up some stuff when i realise those really nice bueno chocolates are on sale for insanely cheap (like 2 dollars for a box), there were also all these different flavors like arnotts biscuit chocolate filled, i remember trying to decide but couldnt then i attempted to mix and match one box so it had several different flavors but in doing so knocked a few itema behind the shelf and also missed out on a few cause it was suddenly high demand. This next part of my dream was either before the airport or after: i get off a bus and start skating on the footpath along the same route as this cause now for some reason i have to get back on lol. Im skating so shit and the path im on is super bumpy but i eventually get the hang of it. I bump into a little posse of youngins that resembled these guys from my work, they are walking about selling drugs. I say my whats up, one of them jokingly threatens me i tell him to fuck off and he finds it funny then i continue skating off. At one point during the skate i was on brick tiles and the shit got hell bumpy out of nowhere but somehow i was able to cruise over it by crouching low on my board. At one stage i almost came off my board right next to the bus as i was going down this hill where there were heaps of pedestrians out of nowhere that i had to dodge, also a police woman, the way i almost stack was funny as i kind of matrixed backwards in a way that wasn't physically possible.
So im a detective in training now and i have this absolute biiiiitch for a partner who is training me. Shes pretty hot tho. Anyways we are working a beat on this street in the city out of her car which is some van and my old bimmer. Somehow along the coast where we had parked had fucked up some shit for other officers to get on a crime scene cause apparently we parked right on the entrance to one. Shes getting heckled on the phone by superiors and of course is blaming me. We eventually get there to move the cars and are put in an overstay at this really nice posh af place with like three storeys. First thing that goes down is we have a huuuuge verbal fight once we get in as we suss out what this place is like, she isnt happy with it but i thought it was reeeaaallly high class. This place had a gym and like 10 tvs and was just huuuge, she seemed to be more experienced at being a detective and this seemed to be unsuitable. Anyways she is blaming me for it all and we are still having a massive fight, Much like one a married couple would have, im calling her a bitch yadayada at one stage she was still blaming me for botching a case but i already figured out some two step process for catching the perp and was like first we do this then that by popping up my right middle finger then my left, she found this funny i could tell but didnt laugh as to maintain the anger, i kept repeating it cause it was pretty funny for me and she was getting heaps annoyed by it after a bit. She ends up storming out to go get food cause we are both hungry, something like popeyes or something, none for me though so im forced to eat this packed lunch ive apparently had in this backpack which are literal silver coins and nuts that im just shovelling down by the handful. At this point this place turns into the big brother house cause theres heaps of different people here now, she returns with this other girl Tiara who just backs up every insult shes throwing at me lol. Meanwhile im just defending myself and going back to eating my coins and nuts when a group of guys turn up and try calm us down and ask me what the commotion is and stuff, these guys are super friendly, like i was training with them or something, among them was an old friend of mine Lachlan. I was sooooo thrilled to see him cause i havent seen this guy in forever in real life. Upstairs back to where i was eating there was this mid 40s dude on a table doing a crossword or some shit or trying to write a report and he sees me and obviously isnt pleased with all the commotion, says that because of me he wrote some word completely wrong and was really passive aggressive about the whole thing. He asked what my name was and i said JoJo which is a lie and he writes it down on some list then crossed it out real violent apparently going to show to my superiors. I found this pretty funny. I went back to shovelling the rest of the nuts and coins lunch and i wake up. Pretty annoyed cause this dream was heaps of fun. Just had another fucking wild one. Myself and some guys i recognize from work are at this skyscraper top floor level 50 or someshit in a fire escape but this fireescape had like a spiral staircase as well as a faulty cargo lift that would swing up multiple floors then down some. Andy and myself are being chased by Lawrence Fishburne and we try this faulty lift. We are swinging up and down so he cant get us but so he opts for another route to the roof which is where we have to go as our pursuers are coming from below. The lift wouldnt take us down. We jump off it once Lawrence is gone and realise another person in some bathrobe making his way up towards us. There is this sketchy af yellow emergency ladder that could take us to the roof from a couple floors down where we were at but it was way too sketchy. Now we are joined by a few others that randomly appear, also recognized as work mates and they are on the run too. Bathrobe dude is near us and he randomly leaps off the grating of our floor to try reach the grating from the level below because now he was being pursued too all of a sudden. He almost makes it but doesn't and hits the edge of the grate and falls backwards down the staircase center directly to the bottom. I remember grabbing his bathrobe before he jumped. Suddenly a guy is right behind us now closing in as we are running towards this weird hall enclosed by grates, i try chuck the bathrobe over his face but miss. He has a weapon as well. As we get chased this guy now has the bathrobe rope as a choker weapon and manages to swing it round my neck but i flip out of it onto this grating and see a bunch of junk, namely big magnifying glasses. I pick through three till i find one to use as a club and end up beating this dude a few times till he gave up and put his hands up. Then it gets real emotional here cause i turn to one of my workmates, a Lebanese guy, i ask him what the fuck he did in Russia and that he needed to tell the truth. Apparently this was why we were being chased. He spills the beans saying that most medical corporations only purchase pacemakers at original factory settings and that he knew of ways to reset used ones back to this to resell essentially making them faulty and under the guise of brand new to be resold. At this point i just walked towards one of the windows and was weeping uncontrollably. It was a real nice view, i dropped my magnifying glass weapon and just cried and looked out at the world. Then i wake up. Wild shit!
In Russia with two ladies and a guy both whom i know pretty well and am travelling with. We get on some cargo train and when it starts moving really fast i slide around and my phone comes out my pocket and i almost lose it off the edge. I too almost come off the edge but was lucky enough to stop myself with my surroundings. The train then stops at a platform where everyone gets off, we werent the only ones on the train there were actually quite a few others. we then boarded another train, this time a normal one. Here is where i got to chat with my three travel companions a bit more. One girl was a blonde short hair that i dont recognize in real life but was super friendly and i liked her the most as she could talk the most english and was generally the most welcoming, the guy had something shady about him and could only half speak english and half russian and the third girl had dark hair no english and was super quiet. As we travel on this train just for a bit we get off at a stop thats not a platform so we have to jump down a bit. Its super wet and snowy and partly muddy, theres not too many buildings around except for this one lot directly in front of where we get off that is red and only has one visible food shop open which is a bakery. This made sense as it was what felt like crack of dawn. Inside this bakery we find seats somehow even though it was so busy, so small and only had maybe three sets of seat and tables we found one to seat us all. I drop my bags along with the others and i line up with the blonde. We are talking about what to get and some other stuff i cant remember. Eventually when we move to the front of the line and i go to order, as i cant read or talk russian and she ordered first and went back to the table, i had to pick what was visible on the rack which were cakes and dessert stuff whereas i really felt like a pie or something. I gave in and pointed at this one cake that looked like the most classic birthday cake ever. The lady at the counter then ends up bagging up this whole cake for me and i thought fuck it cause i didnt want to hold up the line and km super hungry anyway. As i didnt know the price, i just held up ten whatever coins to her and she grabbed the necessary amount. Bringing the cake back to the table was super amusing to my russian travel buddies as they figured out what had happened. I ate this cake so fast and was somehow still hungry. Going up for seconds, this time i got two cream buns using the same method, the lady at the counter cracks a joke to her colleagues in russian who laugh and using one word i hear as "Akran". I somehow piece together that this meant asian and i went back to the table to ask whether this was true, the guy laughs but the blonde gets a little upset as she finds this to be racist and didn't want to me thinking this represented her country, dark hair girl was just reading something. I wake up. Had an arvo nap and returned to my same dream from in russia. This time the group im with is a little more fleshed out as i know who each is reminded me of. Dave was there, Blondey is Mia and the guy turns out to be this multimillionaire entrepreneur with a borderline world destroying plan. Several others with me too maybe 5 others who represent other people aswell. Anyway so multimillionaire has this massive out door gated storage facility still being partly made, its well guarded and high tech af with like these little black and orange lit owl lanterns at each storage container which probably got bigger underground, this place was nested deep in a jungle as well. The purpose of this facility was to bank and house the richest of the world's most personal and secret items. Multibillionaire discussed this to us as being linked to eventual singularity of the world but could only reach those in money or power and housed some of the world's best kept secrets. I remember we were all drinking getting hella drunk but were still able to articulate, also we all spoke really good english now. I was speaking most with this one guy whom i cant place, i remember that multibillionaire's purpose was to use this facility to continue to make more money but i tried to convince them on length that this place held way more potential to be able to save the whole human population if a major crisis were to occur. Billionaire wasnt too impressed and continued talking about what developments could occur. Finally as we leave the facility this is where i noticed the owl lantern and also that i have had several beers. As we get outside suddenly its as if all the drinks hit us at once, one guy even just passes out cold on his feet as we are all saying goodbyes and falls backwards smashing this empty vodka bottle in his hand, was pretty funny. we were outside this grocery store called feminiCHASIS in like tryingtobe futuristic sci fi writing. I was talking to Mia now as i was to return home within a few days whilst they were staying in Russia and some others like Dave and stuff were leaving the next day. I remember her saying if she doesnt see me before thursday then ciao for now or something but i said i hadnt yet booked a flight back and it might take a bit but she meant it as if she would be hella busy from then out. I said i didnt mind the time alone cause i had heaps of ways to pass the time like their netflix for example was super loaded and we joked about another location that i could pass time with (bar or something) then we joked more about other locales we had been to whilst chilling in russia such as feminiCHASIS which we had a mad laugh at. At this point i woke up, feeling hell emotional for some reason. Kinda didnt want to wake up from that one..
March 30
two dreams, im in the 1920s and im stranded at this shopping district with no money and hungry so im trying to steal cars off people, it was super easy at the time. eventually i give up on trying to steal a car and go to some posh upperclass cafe to try steal food. suddenly i see a girl getting scolded but what seemed to be her boss so i use this distraction to nick off with a whole tray of quiche and some other big pie. I notice then that this girl had been fired and was pretty upset. i left around the back and seen her leaving teary eyed and i said hey you ok? i got a surprise for you. i lead her to some playground at an empty park where somehow i had my loot stashed. i bought out the quiches and pie from behind some brick wall which somehow i got their earlier and her and i just had a picnic which made her feel better. woke up. slept again and dreamt my old bmw was now baby blue and semi looking like a vw buggie but more buff. this friend who i cant place and myself are at a car dealership where rhis attractive blonde lady comes up and she wants to buy the car. apparently we are here to sort a deal. so in the office we chat and through just a bit i somehow get a 40k deal from her. as she is about to sign off she stops abruptly and says umm ok i just got back a character reference and im afraid i can only do 5k due to a character reference of that of MRT...i said what the fuck is that but she looked at me stern and wrote it down and showed me. i still had no idea what she was talking about those arent my initials? shes now acting real rude and sly saying jargon and my friend is irate. i cant remember the exacts of the coversation as this dream was basically just me dealing with a nice looking but scummy saleswoman though at some point it got real personal. At one stage i even questioned her life ethics and that if she was happy with her career choice. she was visibly upset and choking back tears as she tried to keep face by calling my question seedy and then attempting to justify her actions. i remember saying something along the lines of imagine how many other people before me that arent to bright having money just taken from their wallets unknowingly due to slight ignorance to the value of their cars. i remember her comparing my question to if she were to come to my house and ash cigarette all over my bedroom which i retort with that one action is a question of moral compass whereas the other is deliberate negligence of someone else's property where my friend was like yeaa! and she was pretty owned from that statement. i then start going a bit deeper with why she chose her career path and if she is happy with her life making money off ignorance and ripping people off. shes almost at tears at this point. then i wake up feeling kind of angry like i was actually just in a heated arguement. what the fuck lol
March 31
Such an awesome dream holy shit. So its in three or two parts but only remember maybe 2 or all but seems like 2 cas i woke up in between but somehow kept goin back. So im at some festival or something in brazil with a heaaap of people are there. I remember not really enjoying myself and trying to get back to my cabin or whatever and a big soccer game was going down with loads of people on the border of the field using this big ass plastic surrounding us too make this enclosure. i had to walk thru but somehow it kept closing me in and i had to duck and sometimes crawl to make my way thru but it seemed each person holding the border kept trying to trap me in or nudge me as if to make me try join in. I wake up, slept again and returned into the same dream this time at the same thing but with a bunch of friends and workmates and my supervisors from work are actually these team leaders in charge of us all cause we are on a field trip. So much is going on so many colours and all these people are tripping nuts. The most crucial part of this was when i am in my designated group doing some scavenger hunt when big fireworks pop off and commotion and some dutch stuntman snowboarder is about to do some epic shit. they had snow laid out as this fat course he was about to tear up through brazil where it doesnt snow lol. so he launches out this chopper into a slope ontop of a truck and starts to do a maddd af line. first with like a 360 gainer off truck lands perfect then he 180 nose grinds a bench. easy. then does some shit over a whole street gap and eventually does a few more tricks over some obstacles and comes to a stop at this group of people. meanwhile i was running trying to follow this whole line along with some people in my group. amazing shit. we get to the group of gnardogs and apparently the final festival was about to go down. They had these things launch high up into the air and come flying down, they were rc cars but if you catch one youre meant to throw it back up and they jet propel themselves off in like a firework fashion. The guys that tried to catch these kept having it hit their heads for some reason lol. accident im sure. one guy was even profusely bleeding but was having the time of his life. Suddenly one he threw up started coming back down towards me and as spirit of the festival i just let it smash me clean in the face and then threw it back up. Everyone laughed and even the stuntdude came up and patted my back. at this point our supervisors for the field trip were trying to get us back to the bus or someshit but some workmates and i and a few others plus these stunt guys and event hosts were just having too much fun running about with loads of others in the festivity just launch rc car fireworks haaha. it was pure joy and sooo many fine ladies. bliss. i felt like i was on the best acid trip. then one of the dudes that was bleeding hard put his arm around my shoulder and was like, youre gna love this next part. try catch as many as you can ok! Suddenly, what looked like a swarm of bubbles with items inside floood the center of the festival and eveeeeryone is cheering. at this point my teamleader who is kenny from work found my group and is ushering us back but a few of us and myself break from it and try catch these bubbles which are now flooding the air of the town like little parachutes. everyone is out trying to fetch as many as possible and suddenly this song is playing and partly being sung. it was the happiest song ive ever heard. i manage to catch like 2 or 3 bags or bubbles or whatever and notice there are fruit inside like big raspberries and big cranberries the size of my hand. I remember now that these were filled with LSD and i just munched down the raspberry and started running back towards my bus surrounded by bubble fruit rainfall and beautiful music. everyone is tripping nuts and as i am running back, like being on the tops of columbia i saw this absolutely breathtaker of a view of this city with lsd fruit bubble rainfall just drizzling down upon the city. I stopped and admired and teared up from how gorgeous this was. so much color and this song just being sung by the locals i felt so welcome and warm but my field trip was about to leave so i had to run back to them. then i wake up. fuck i wish it couldve lasted longer.
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2019.03.04 22:47 SubLethalDose1 "I guarantee a dude is gonna squirt it in ya anyway and you'll have to have their baby!"

Longish one so TL;DR at bottom. Hello and good afternoon to my fav sub. I (21F) have some rage for you folks today. This happened over winter break (am student) and I'm thinkin' yall will appreciate my style of Bingo-er Away Spray (only in verbal form, liquid form will be available 2020).
Once upon a time in a land probably not as far away as youd think there were some college kids drinking in a suburb and acting afool. We were kicking it in the garage of our host bc we were low key too loud to be inside and no one wanted to upset our hosts parents (they rock) when all us bored folks (a group of about 6, only 2 of which are women, me and one of my friends gf) decide to go on a night walk. Were doing our lil lap around the neighborhood and the subject of children or having children came up. We were all home from school together so high school was a fun topic to go over (mostly gossip about the many whom have fallen either via kids or jail or drugs or whatever you have) and I chime in my typical and consistent answer of "I am NEVER fuckin having kids!" que horror reel of pregnancy, episiotomies and screaming booger factories. Most of my guy friends dont give a fuck weather I have kids or not or what I do with my lady bits and are always very supportive except for my one friend who was the one who also brought his girlfriend. This is a religious couple and I am good friends with both of them despite having to occasionally wade through crazy conservative land. Anywho, T: male bingo-er, M: female bingo-er, and me= muah Me: "I'm NEVER fuckin having kids!"
M: oh you'll change your mind when you're older! T agrees with her with all of his deep, superior male understanding of womens anatomy and physiology
Me: no I wont. I dont want kids. I dont want to be pregnant M starts to try and interrupt me with some garbage about how it's worth it but I just get louder to the point of almost yelling to finish my fucking sentence and she just stops what she was saying and I DONT want to be a mother.
M: watch, in 5 years you'll be posting an announcement and me and T will be able to say I told you so!
This coming from a girl who works at 2 nurseries and baby sits and shit for fun. They were so smug at this point and M kept sing songing "well see about that!" I felt it was adequate to say what usually stops normal people in their tracks:
Me: well then you're going to have to keep waiting because my birth control is the implant AND condoms and if I EVER get pregnant i will get an abortion immediately. insert crazy eye contact here for dominance
M is very quiet now but T was seemingly entertained by this and even laughed and plastered the most enraging smug grin on his face before looking at me (a friend since we were 15) and drops this golden line on me:
T: youll have kids anyway. I guarantee a dude is gonna squirt it in ya anyway and you'll have to have his baby!"
At this point I saw RED because what he just insisted will happen to me no matter what is a form of sexual assault so I turned to him and like the polite fuckin lady I am yelled this:
Me: I promise you that if I EVER get pregnant I will personally kill and scrape the thing from my own body if I have to. Whatever parasite that would implant itself in my body without my permission will be terminated immediately with no conversation. I have savings set aside, enough for me to afford an abortion without help from anyone and I know where all my local clinics that would help me are. You should be worried and disgusted with yourself if my bodily autonomy upsets you to the point where you tell me I have no options and if I dont want a baby someone will rape me and force me to have one anyway.
T responded to my retort (which was not as pretty as what you see above due to my rage and BAC, I just summed it up for yall) with some kind of "sheesh I was kidding but seriously you'll probably change your mind" garbage and I didnt even bother responding.
My other friends who had their own conversations going on had folded back into our group and now everyone just kept laughing and talking. That was that. We are all still in the same friend herd as this had not been my first political/social/ethics battle with my (white male upperclass father-runs-the-local-super-church) friend. I love him and he has a big heart but he was raised very differently than I and sometimes we clash over that, but such is life.
TL;DR: was drinking with friends, got bingoed and it escalated from "you'll change your mind" to the threat of "one day your partner will get what he wants from you (children) via rape and forced birth". I was not having it and gave an ahem passionate response regarding my very real and structured abortion emergency plans.
I hope you enjoyed my rage induced shiny spine story. Go on with ya bad selves and have a dope ass day my dudes.
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2019.02.23 02:32 PrestonMD STEP 260 story ft. burn out and Anki

tl;dr thank you all so much, IMG who got burned out still survived STEP because of you all, Anki really does work

Hi, I wanted to post my STEP1 story for a few reasons: mostly because I read this subreddit religiously for probably the 6-12 months leading up to the exam; but also because I am an IMG and I don’t see many posts from them here; I had some real struggles with MS2 and I think that’s good for people to hear; and finally because I think this subreddit never gets tired of hearing anecdotal evidence that Anki is really effective haha.
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Thanks: Reading your experiences over this time has really helped me survive med school so I was wanted to say I truly appreciate all of you so much. I have also benefited tremendously from the work of those amazing people who have made the decks in the sidebar.
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IMG stuff: I go to an Australian 4 year medical school, I studied for STEP to open some career doors and to push myself (I’m the kind of person who needs external motivations/deadlines to study for). Our school year runs from January-November so I initially planned on studying for about 11 months but with paperwork problems I ended up taking it in late January 2019 (about 4 weeks into my first MS3 rotation).
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Struggles: Committing to study for STEP using Anki really helped me put in a bit of work every day (and some days a lot of work) just from doing my reviews. However, I don’t think I appreciated for a long time how much strain it puts on you (or my partnefriends/family) to never take a day off studying until I got to December. It was only in November that I found out I wouldn’t be taking STEP until late January and faced with another 2 months of constant study I think a bit of me died.
After school exams in November, I barely studied in December (I mean like 10 Anki reviews a day and nothing else), by New Year’s I had about 5500 reviews to complete. I just couldn’t face doing anything else and it was summer holidays so there wasn’t anyone to convince me to study. This is the first time in my life I’ve dealt with burnout and honestly I’m not sure what advice I would give to avoid it because obviously I fell right into it. I’d appreciate all your thoughts (please don’t link me to a mandatory wellness lecture).
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Magic of Anki: Even though I think it burned me out from constant studying it is still an amazing tool so I figured I would list what helped me get to my score and what I would recommend for MS2s and 1s. I started off working my way through Zanki and Zanki Pharm, then added in the blue galaxies update, then finished off with Pepper micro. This was my first 6 months of 2018 as my school encourages the international students to take their first NBME about 6 months out from their exam and I really wanted to set a good baseline. I did a few Osmosis questions for each block as I went through, maybe 500-1000 over the 6 months – I had Osmosis because I bought into the hype in first year, probably wouldn’t recommend it honestly.
NBME 13 (7 months out): 240
I hadn’t expected to do that well at all, but obviously I put it all down to those Anki decks. I think with that baseline I wasn’t really sure how to proceed which is pretty dumb cause I had 6 months or so to improve it. I started doing Pastest questions (had a free trial) and did maybe 800 before I decided I should just bite the bullet and get a UWorld subscription.
I added in lolnotacop’s micro deck, a deck an upperclass man made for anatomy, Pepper UWorld, BrosWorld 1.1 and Goobernaculum's rapid review deck.
So I sat NBME 17 to see if these decks and Pastest had helped me at all.
NBME 17 (5 months out): 246
Apparently not.
Worked my way through UWorld over the next few months, ended up with an average of like 86% initially at 80% and moving up to 90-95% on occasion.
UWSA1 (3 months out): 271
While at the time I was amazed, I was also pretty sure it was due to using blue galaxies update which I think includes UWSA1 and 2 questions.
UWSA2 (2 months out): 264
Pretty much the last thing I did before that big period of burnout I was talking about.
Coming back to 5500 reviews while starting MS3 with all of its changes and confusion, let alone doing my rotation during the day was a struggle, but I think the structure of having class again actually really helped me get back into study mode.
I caught up on the reviews and then took NBME 15 and 16 on the same weekend, and got 253 and 244 respectively.
This was pretty crushing and it was only 2 weeks until my exam and my NBME scores hadn’t really budged for 6 months. I decided instead of trying to finish Kaplan I would just do the questions about my weak points (mostly ethics, biochem, psychology, genetics) and finish all those. Then I still had about a week before the exam so I did the same topics on the AMBOSS qbank, osmosis qbank and started to do them on the rx qbank, never got around to finishing the rx ones.
On the final weekend before my exam (about five days out) I took NBME 18 and then the free 120, got 250 and 91%. Again I didn’t find this reassuring after so many months of study.
I tossed up whether to do NBME 19 as I assumed it would under predict like for everyone else and make me feel even worse, but I decided to take it 3 days before and got 263. Probably the only NBME after the first one that felt like I had spent money wisely haha. This helped a lot with my nerves for the last few days although apparently I was the most tense I have ever been according to my partner.
The night before I watched a movie and scrolled through a document of all the wrong answers from my NBMEs.
I can’t say much about the actual day aside from it being pretty similar to the NBMEs but a bit longer. I’d only heard a few days before that if you finish a block early the time is added to your break time which I think is a really helpful tip for the exam.
Actual STEP1: 260
I think my predicted score using that recently posted excel sheet on medicalschool was 253-263 or so, so I think I was really lucky with the questions I was asked.
I don't know what I would change about what decks I used, on the day there was one question I felt I should have known (about the tendons of the snuffbox) otherwise every other question I wasn't sure about I don't think I had seen anywhere.
I hope one day to contribute back to this awesome subreddit with a deck that's helpful but I'm not there yet.
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Hope reading this has been as good procrastination for you as it was for me writing it. Finish your reviews for today, I believe in you :)
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2018.12.28 01:12 throwaway8612ui [20/F 24/M] California has become too expensive to live, we’re running out of options before we become homeless, or stuck in an extreme cycle of poverty.

Financial/education background: - Paid off car, insurance is ~$90 month, clean driving record - Security officer (3+ years experience) - Certified EMT (1 year experience with addicts and pediatrics) - AA in Natural Science (pre-nursing) - ZERO debt (No Credit Card debt or student loans), my partners Credit Card debt is <$500/year. - Fair to good credit score - EMT job offer 401k, PTO, Full medical benefits - Combined income we make $50k-$60k a year. - Last 6 months we’ve been on one income ($30k) due to my partner supporting me to finish my nursing pre-reqs, since it was my last semester before graduation.
PROBLEM: Our landlord wants to rase our rent for a room from $700/month to $1200/month on top of that we clean the home, pay utilities stock the fridge, do laundry, buy everything to upkeep the house, but toiletries, renovation with water piping problems all while supporting their 24 year old son (he’s allowed to eat our food, uses our toiletries, doesn’t work stays home cranking up the heater smokes weed and has his friends over all day). The reasoning is because chores where not complete when she came to visit, because after my 9 hours shift from a 46 hour week, I came home cleaned the whole house, my partner helped out with trash and floors, we asked her son to help out help clean the backyard and instead he left, when they came home he claimed we weren’t “fulfilling our promises” to take care of the house and decided we need to pay for her to hire a gardener and professionals to clean the home. Which would mean we would be pay half of the mortgage and raise her fully grown adult son. They blame us for increase in utilities even though we’re out of the house for a combined 100+ hours a week, and her son and her bring friend over, blast the heater and leave multiple lights on. We’ve asked them to look at the bills to see what are the peak times, and work to cut back on the lighting/wategas usage and they refuse to, on multiple occasions. - My partner and I with a $15/hour job WITH benefits combined income of around $50k a year and can’t afford housing. Because using 30% of our income an apartment comes out to: $1250. Apartments in the area we live currently go for: $1800, if I go 20 minutes up north they go for an average of $2,500, and if I go south my commute will not only double to 2-4 hour commute due to traffic but homes start at $400-$500k. - We don’t qualify for any government programs because of our income. - We don’t live in a “upperclass” area, we live south of Silicone Valley, in an agriculture community known for the problems with homeless, drug abuse, and gang violence. We also are not a “beach side community.” - If we move further south we’d only (plausibly) qualify for a $300k home, with an hour commute our income would be cut to around $45k a year. I would be looking at a pay cut to $13-$14/hour and we would lose our benefits. - We’ve already accounting for how much would be spent in gas, food, yearly bills (phone/food/utilities/dog food and treatment/insurance/etc). - We’re avoiding rehoming our dog, and unfortunately the places that do allow pets run up to $2-$4k/month. - Moving back in with my family is an option but only temporary, they live farther south than the area where a house comes up to $300k, apartments in the area are unavailable currently, and that makes my commute remain at 1-4 hours depends on which job I take/keep. 1 hour commute without benefits, 2-4 hours with benefits.
If we did find an apartment we’re looking at $1350 a month, which is the same as a mortgage in the area + A long commute our gas bill would be $240/month meaning we’re still paying $1550 making it: 45% of our income.
We’re one medical emergency from being stuck in poverty. The stress of making our living situation has take a physical toll on our health and we’ve already come across a kidney stones and prostate cancer scares. My partners working 50 hour weeks on graves, and I’m working 46 hours on swings and just finished school. The bills keep pilling up and no matter how much we do our housing situations just constantly on a thin line. With our work schedules and our 30 minute commute, going back to school/into a trade means one of us will have to over-work ourselves to make ends meet for the other one to succeed.
We’ve done as much as we can correctly, living in California has become too expensive and we’re running out of options before we end up homeless.
What can we do? Where should we look into? What state could/would be good to start working towards moving too?
Nursing school isn’t an option currently because my family is unwilling to support me while through school (I put myself through college), and the only way my partner and I were able to make ends meet on his income alone (~$30k) is with paying <$750 in rent for a room, he also paid all bills, food for 3, dog food, etc. If we where to stay where we live, and I went to nursing school rent rent would take up 50% of my partners income.
I graduated with a 2.8 from a California CC for my nursing pre-reqs, and took Bachelors level English and Chemistry, and have 1 year experience as a certified EMT. So I’m sure I would qualify for a nursing school out of state in the future.
We’re trying our best to avoid rehoming out dog, and I rather struggle for the next 2-3 years, commute and move back home if it means working and saving up to transfer to a more affordable area, and I look into out of state options.
I know moving isn’t going to fix anything, EMS is underpaid nationally, and security isn’t a luxury field. We are hard workers, we work 12+ hour shifts, overtime, weekends and holidays. Even if we make less an hour elsewhere if rent + commuting isn’t taking up 50% of our income, it will at least buy us the opportunity for my partner to be able to find a better job, or for me to get into nursing school and for us to better our lives.
It’s absurd that two adults making upwards of $4k/month can not qualify for an apartment, and for our landlord to expect us to pay $1,200, on top of cleaning the house, buying groceries, washing her sons clothes, buying the cleaning supplies, cooking, washing their dishes, help renovate the house, clean out the garage, etc etc. So that her son is able to stay home, and being supported has become borderline abusive of the situation. Because as it is we’re already spending $1,200+ so they don’t buy laundry detergent, groceries, toilet paper, share the utilities, etc, and adding on another $500 on rent means we’re now looking at $1,700+ to maintain the house and her son, for us to only have a room.
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2018.02.25 04:01 BarkeyForeman How legit is the criticism that many current successful businessmen and investors inherited their wealth and/or company or came from educated upper middle class backgrounds? Does it ignore how difficult running a business and investing is (despite criticisms from leftists and the general populace)?

These two posts should explain much of what I have to say.
https://www.reddit.com/offmychest/comments/7qx0as/how_come_biographies_interviews_etc_nonfiction/
https://www.reddit.com/business/comments/7qxo6j/how_come_famous_stock_brokers_businessmen/
Be sure to read the above links (at least read the first one!) before reading the rest of my post.
Growing up I always seen criticism from many leftists- in particular American liberals, Communists (especially those from Russia or descending from former upperclass Soviets), Anarchists, and other political groups leaning towards lefty fiscal economics about how its unfair businessmen like Trump are successful because they already inherited the wealth and profitable company of their parents or they came from upper middle class background and have outstanding education like Bill Gates.
This criticism goes beyond people involved in politics. I cannot tell you how many poor people often scoff at the rich business owners because they are just lucky to have been born from wealthy parents. Hell I even see middle class people who are well off attacking the Bill Gates and other successes as lazy imbeciles who are just "sitting on their butts all day long" and they are hoarding wealth so it should be distributed. I seen from the general populace, both poor and middle class, attack the capitalist system because business men aren't really doing hardwork nor are they producing anything of value.
I will admit just for the sake of what I will say in a minute that I am not a conservative. I've been raised in a minarchist household that favors neither leftist nor rightest view but merely view government should have minimal interaction in everything from what movies you watch to visiting a brothel to AK47 owndership. So yes I already have views that are contradictory to conservative idealism.
Yet I could never understand the criticism "business men are lazy because they inherited their richness" and "running a business is as easy as 123!". Even before I started going into the stock market, I already had first hand experience of how running a business would be like via stays at my auntie (who I mentioned in one of the above reddit links, owns a restaurant). In addition to seeing the dangers and difficulties of kitchen cookings, everytime I stayed over I would always hear her at night getting enraged as she spoke on the phone as she was speaking with employees, partners, and other business associates about so many complex subjects such as paying the bills, trying to get a new insurance company's support, difficulties with kitchen equipment, etc. I could always see how stressed my auntie would be everytime she woke up before she drank coffee and took a bath.
Mind you my auntie is actually quite a successful business owner. At the time she already had a $1,000,000 (I was 14 when she had that amount) in one of her bank accounts and when I talked to her which was weeks before I tried to get into stocks and bonds recently, she told me she had amassed a little over $10 million in that specific bank account. This is not counting assets, her other bank account savings, etc. But I can see despite being merely 46, she's already full of gray hair (I'm only 22 just to put this into perspective).
So I was not naive to believe I'll get rich quick when I tried to enter stock market recently as I already know first hand how hard business can be. Yet even I was caught off guard at how simplistic stuff such as comparing different stocks in chart analysis could be.
So it makes me wonder why the politically left and anarchist as well as poor and many middle class people think running a business and investments is a cakewake? And why many of them think just because Trump was given a lot of cash to start business by his already rich dad that it was easy as playing video games for him to run his enterprises?
I mean has any one seen how Tom Kalinske left his job as CEO of Sega of America with grey hair just because the stress of company politics got him? Or how medical analysts are saying Steve Jobs had a relatively young death because of his diseases which they theorized was probably caused by being overworked running Apple?
I would like your input socialists!
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2018.02.25 03:16 BarkeyForeman How legit is the criticism that many current successful businessmen and investors inherited their wealth and/or company or came from educated upper middle class backgrounds? Does it ignore how difficult running a business and investing is (despite criticisms from leftists and the general populace)?

These two posts should explain much of what I have to say.
https://www.reddit.com/offmychest/comments/7qx0as/how_come_biographies_interviews_etc_nonfiction/
https://www.reddit.com/business/comments/7qxo6j/how_come_famous_stock_brokers_businessmen/
Be sure to read the above links (at least read the first one!) before reading the rest of my post.
Growing up I always seen criticism from many leftists- in particular American liberals, Communists (especially those from Russia or descending from former upperclass Soviets), Anarchists, and other political groups leaning towards lefty fiscal economics about how its unfair businessmen like Trump are successful because they already inherited the wealth and profitable company of their parents or they came from upper middle class background and have outstanding education like Bill Gates.
This criticism goes beyond people involved in politics. I cannot tell you how many poor people often scoff at the rich business owners because they are just lucky to have been born from wealthy parents. Hell I even see middle class people who are well off attacking the Bill Gates and other successes as lazy imbeciles who are just "sitting on their butts all day long" and they are hoarding wealth so it should be distributed. I seen from the general populace, both poor and middle class, attack the capitalist system because business men aren't really doing hardwork nor are they producing anything of value.
I will admit just for the sake of what I will say in a minute that I am not a conservative. I've been raised in a minarchist household that favors neither leftist nor rightest view but merely view government should have minimal interaction in everything from what movies you watch to visiting a brothel to AK47 owndership. So yes I already have views that are contradictory to conservative idealism.
Yet I could never understand the criticism "business men are lazy because they inherited their richness" and "running a business is as easy as 123!". Even before I started going into the stock market, I already had first hand experience of how running a business would be like via stays at my auntie (who I mentioned in one of the above reddit links, owns a restaurant). In addition to seeing the dangers and difficulties of kitchen cookings, everytime I stayed over I would always hear her at night getting enraged as she spoke on the phone as she was speaking with employees, partners, and other business associates about so many complex subjects such as paying the bills, trying to get a new insurance company's support, difficulties with kitchen equipment, etc. I could always see how stressed my auntie would be everytime she woke up before she drank coffee and took a bath.
Mind you my auntie is actually quite a successful business owner. At the time she already had a $1,000,000 (I was 14 when she had that amount) in one of her bank accounts and when I talked to her which was weeks before I tried to get into stocks and bonds recently, she told me she had amassed a little over $10 million in that specific bank account. This is not counting assets, her other bank account savings, etc. But I can see despite being merely 46, she's already full of gray hair (I'm only 22 just to put this into perspective).
So I was not naive to believe I'll get rich quick when I tried to enter stock market recently as I already know first hand how hard business can be. Yet even I was caught off guard at how simplistic stuff such as comparing different stocks in chart analysis could be.
So it makes me wonder why the politically left and anarchist as well as poor and many middle class people think running a business and investments is a cakewake? And why many of them think just because Trump was given a lot of cash to start business by his already rich dad that it was easy as playing video games for him to run his enterprises?
I mean has any one seen how Tom Kalinske left his job as CEO of Sega of America with grey hair just because the stress of company politics got him? Or how medical analysts are saying Steve Jobs had a relatively young death because of his diseases which they theorized was probably caused by being overworked running Apple?
I would like your input fascists!
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2018.01.18 20:37 BarkeyForeman How legit is the criticism that many current successful businessmen and investors inherited their wealth and/or company or came from educated upper middle class backgrounds? Does it ignore how difficult running a business and investing is (despite criticisms from leftists and the general populace)?

These two posts should explain much of what I have to say.
https://www.reddit.com/offmychest/comments/7qx0as/how_come_biographies_interviews_etc_nonfiction/
https://www.reddit.com/business/comments/7qxo6j/how_come_famous_stock_brokers_businessmen/
Be sure to read the above links (at least read the first one!) before reading the rest of my post.
Growing up I always seen criticism from many leftists- in particular American liberals, Communists (especially those from Russia or descending from former upperclass Soviets), Anarchists, and other political groups leaning towards lefty fiscal economics about how its unfair businessmen like Trump are successful because they already inherited the wealth and profitable company of their parents or they came from upper middle class background and have outstanding education like Bill Gates.
This criticism goes beyond people involved in politics. I cannot tell you how many poor people often scoff at the rich business owners because they are just lucky to have been born from wealthy parents. Hell I even see middle class people who are well off attacking the Bill Gates and other successes as lazy imbeciles who are just "sitting on their butts all day long" and they are hoarding wealth so it should be distributed. I seen from the general populace, both poor and middle class, attack the capitalist system because business men aren't really doing hardwork nor are they producing anything of value.
I will admit just for the sake of what I will say in a minute that I am not a conservative. I've been raised in a minarchist household that favors neither leftist nor rightest view but merely view government should have minimal interaction in everything from what movies you watch to visiting a brothel to AK47 owndership. So yes I already have views that are contradictory to conservative idealism.
Yet I could never understand the criticism "business men are lazy because they inherited their richness" and "running a business is as easy as 123!". Even before I started going into the stock market, I already had first hand experience of how running a business would be like via stays at my auntie (who I mentioned in one of the above reddit links, owns a restaurant). In addition to seeing the dangers and difficulties of kitchen cookings, everytime I stayed over I would always hear her at night getting enraged as she spoke on the phone as she was speaking with employees, partners, and other business associates about so many complex subjects such as paying the bills, trying to get a new insurance company's support, difficulties with kitchen equipment, etc. I could always see how stressed my auntie would be everytime she woke up before she drank coffee and took a bath.
Mind you my auntie is actually quite a successful business owner. At the time she already had a $1,000,000 (I was 14 when she had that amount) in one of her bank accounts and when I talked to her which was weeks before I tried to get into stocks and bonds recently, she told me she had amassed a little over $10 million in that specific bank account. This is not counting assets, her other bank account savings, etc. But I can see despite being merely 46, she's already full of gray hair (I'm only 22 just to put this into perspective).
So I was not naive to believe I'll get rich quick when I tried to enter stock market recently as I already know first hand how hard business can be. Yet even I was caught off guard at how simplistic stuff such as comparing different stocks in chart analysis could be.
So it makes me wonder why the politically left and anarchist as well as poor and many middle class people think running a business and investments is a cakewake? And why many of them think just because Trump was given a lot of cash to start business by his already rich dad that it was easy as playing video games for him to run his enterprises?
I mean has any one seen how Tom Kalinske left his job as CEO of Sega of America with grey hair just because the stress of company politics got him? Or how medical analysts are saying Steve Jobs had a relatively young death because of his diseases which they theorized was probably caused by being overworked running Apple?
I would like your input Bill Clinton supporters!
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2018.01.18 05:55 BarkeyForeman How legit is the criticism that many current successful businessmen and investors inherited their wealth and/or company or came from educated upper middle class backgrounds? Does it ignore how difficult running a business and investing is (despite criticisms from leftists and the general populace)?

These two posts should explain much of what I have to say.
https://www.reddit.com/offmychest/comments/7qx0as/how_come_biographies_interviews_etc_nonfiction/
https://www.reddit.com/business/comments/7qxo6j/how_come_famous_stock_brokers_businessmen/
Be sure to read the above links (at least read the first one!) before reading the rest of my post.
Growing up I always seen criticism from many leftists- in particular American liberals, Communists (especially those from Russia or descending from former upperclass Soviets), Anarchists, and other political groups leaning towards lefty fiscal economics about how its unfair businessmen like Trump are successful because they already inherited the wealth and profitable company of their parents or they came from upper middle class background and have outstanding education like Bill Gates.
This criticism goes beyond people involved in politics. I cannot tell you how many poor people often scoff at the rich business owners because they are just lucky to have been born from wealthy parents. Hell I even see middle class people who are well off attacking the Bill Gates and other successes as lazy imbeciles who are just "sitting on their butts all day long" and they are hoarding wealth so it should be distributed. I seen from the general populace, both poor and middle class, attack the capitalist system because business men aren't really doing hardwork nor are they producing anything of value.
I will admit just for the sake of what I will say in a minute that I am not a conservative. I've been raised in a minarchist household that favors neither leftist nor rightest view but merely view government should have minimal interaction in everything from what movies you watch to visiting a brothel to AK47 owndership. So yes I already have views that are contradictory to conservative idealism.
Yet I could never understand the criticism "business men are lazy because they inherited their richness" and "running a business is as easy as 123!". Even before I started going into the stock market, I already had first hand experience of how running a business would be like via stays at my auntie (who I mentioned in one of the above reddit links, owns a restaurant). In addition to seeing the dangers and difficulties of kitchen cookings, everytime I stayed over I would always hear her at night getting enraged as she spoke on the phone as she was speaking with employees, partners, and other business associates about so many complex subjects such as paying the bills, trying to get a new insurance company's support, difficulties with kitchen equipment, etc. I could always see how stressed my auntie would be everytime she woke up before she drank coffee and took a bath.
Mind you my auntie is actually quite a successful business owner. At the time she already had a $1,000,000 (I was 14 when she had that amount) in one of her bank accounts and when I talked to her which was weeks before I tried to get into stocks and bonds recently, she told me she had amassed a little over $10 million in that specific bank account. This is not counting assets, her other bank account savings, etc. But I can see despite being merely 46, she's already full of gray hair (I'm only 22 just to put this into perspective).
So I was not naive to believe I'll get rich quick when I tried to enter stock market recently as I already know first hand how hard business can be. Yet even I was caught off guard at how simplistic stuff such as comparing different stocks in chart analysis could be.
So it makes me wonder why the politically left and anarchist as well as poor and many middle class people think running a business and investments is a cakewake? And why many of them think just because Trump was given a lot of cash to start business by his already rich dad that it was easy as playing video games for him to run his enterprises?
I mean has any one seen how Tom Kalinske left his job as CEO of Sega of America with grey hair just because the stress of company politics got him? Or how medical analysts are saying Steve Jobs had a relatively young death because of his diseases which they theorized was probably caused by being overworked running Apple?
I would like your input libertarians!
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2018.01.18 05:45 BarkeyForeman How legit is the criticism that many current successful businessmen and investors inherited their wealth and/or company or came from educated upper middle class backgrounds? Does it ignore how difficult running a business and investing is (despite criticisms from leftists and the general populace)?

These two posts should explain much of what I have to say.
https://www.reddit.com/offmychest/comments/7qx0as/how_come_biographies_interviews_etc_nonfiction/
https://www.reddit.com/business/comments/7qxo6j/how_come_famous_stock_brokers_businessmen/
Be sure to read the above links (at least read the first one!) before reading the rest of my post.
Growing up I always seen criticism from many leftists- in particular American liberals, Communists (especially those from Russia or descending from former upperclass Soviets), Anarchists, and other political groups leaning towards lefty fiscal economics about how its unfair businessmen like Trump are successful because they already inherited the wealth and profitable company of their parents or they came from upper middle class background and have outstanding education like Bill Gates.
This criticism goes beyond people involved in politics. I cannot tell you how many poor people often scoff at the rich business owners because they are just lucky to have been born from wealthy parents. Hell I even see middle class people who are well off attacking the Bill Gates and other successes as lazy imbeciles who are just "sitting on their butts all day long" and they are hoarding wealth so it should be distributed. I seen from the general populace, both poor and middle class, attack the capitalist system because business men aren't really doing hardwork nor are they producing anything of value.
I will admit just for the sake of what I will say in a minute that I am not a conservative. I've been raised in a minarchist household that favors neither leftist nor rightest view but merely view government should have minimal interaction in everything from what movies you watch to visiting a brothel to AK47 owndership. So yes I already have views that are contradictory to conservative idealism.
Yet I could never understand the criticism "business men are lazy because they inherited their richness" and "running a business is as easy as 123!". Even before I started going into the stock market, I already had first hand experience of how running a business would be like via stays at my auntie (who I mentioned in one of the above reddit links, owns a restaurant). In addition to seeing the dangers and difficulties of kitchen cookings, everytime I stayed over I would always hear her at night getting enraged as she spoke on the phone as she was speaking with employees, partners, and other business associates about so many complex subjects such as paying the bills, trying to get a new insurance company's support, difficulties with kitchen equipment, etc. I could always see how stressed my auntie would be everytime she woke up before she drank coffee and took a bath.
Mind you my auntie is actually quite a successful business owner. At the time she already had a $1,000,000 (I was 14 when she had that amount) in one of her bank accounts and when I talked to her which was weeks before I tried to get into stocks and bonds recently, she told me she had amassed a little over $10 million in that specific bank account. This is not counting assets, her other bank account savings, etc. But I can see despite being merely 46, she's already full of gray hair (I'm only 22 just to put this into perspective).
So I was not naive to believe I'll get rich quick when I tried to enter stock market recently as I already know first hand how hard business can be. Yet even I was caught off guard at how simplistic stuff such as comparing different stocks in chart analysis could be.
So it makes me wonder why the politically left and anarchist as well as poor and many middle class people think running a business and investments is a cakewake? And why many of them think just because Trump was given a lot of cash to start business by his already rich dad that it was easy as playing video games for him to run his enterprises?
I mean has any one seen how Tom Kalinske left his job as CEO of Sega of America with grey hair just because the stress of company politics got him? Or how medical analysts are saying Steve Jobs had a relatively young death because of his diseases which they theorized was probably caused by being overworked running Apple?
I would like your input libertarians!
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2018.01.18 05:32 BarkeyForeman How legit is the criticism that many current successful businessmen and investors inherited their wealth and/or company or came from educated upper middle class backgrounds? Does it ignore how difficult running a business and investing is (despite criticisms from leftists and the general populace)?

These two posts should explain much of what I have to say.
https://www.reddit.com/offmychest/comments/7qx0as/how_come_biographies_interviews_etc_nonfiction/
https://www.reddit.com/business/comments/7qxo6j/how_come_famous_stock_brokers_businessmen/
Be sure to read the above links (at least read the first one!) before reading the rest of my post.
Growing up I always seen criticism from many leftists- in particular American liberals, Communists (especially those from Russia or descending from former upperclass Soviets), Anarchists, and other political groups leaning towards lefty fiscal economics about how its unfair businessmen like Trump are successful because they already inherited the wealth and profitable company of their parents or they came from upper middle class background and have outstanding education like Bill Gates.
This criticism goes beyond people involved in politics. I cannot tell you how many poor people often scoff at the rich business owners because they are just lucky to have been born from wealthy parents. Hell I even see middle class people who are well off attacking the Bill Gates and other successes as lazy imbeciles who are just "sitting on their butts all day long" and they are hoarding wealth so it should be distributed. I seen from the general populace, both poor and middle class, attack the capitalist system because business men aren't really doing hardwork nor are they producing anything of value.
I will admit just for the sake of what I will say in a minute that I am not a conservative. I've been raised in a minarchist household that favors neither leftist nor rightest view but merely view government should have minimal interaction in everything from what movies you watch to visiting a brothel to AK47 owndership. So yes I already have views that are contradictory to conservative idealism.
Yet I could never understand the criticism "business men are lazy because they inherited their richness" and "running a business is as easy as 123!". Even before I started going into the stock market, I already had first hand experience of how running a business would be like via stays at my auntie (who I mentioned in one of the above reddit links, owns a restaurant). In addition to seeing the dangers and difficulties of kitchen cookings, everytime I stayed over I would always hear her at night getting enraged as she spoke on the phone as she was speaking with employees, partners, and other business associates about so many complex subjects such as paying the bills, trying to get a new insurance company's support, difficulties with kitchen equipment, etc. I could always see how stressed my auntie would be everytime she woke up before she drank coffee and took a bath.
Mind you my auntie is actually quite a successful business owner. At the time she already had a $1,000,000 (I was 14 when she had that amount) in one of her bank accounts and when I talked to her which was weeks before I tried to get into stocks and bonds recently, she told me she had amassed a little over $10 million in that specific bank account. This is not counting assets, her other bank account savings, etc. But I can see despite being merely 46, she's already full of gray hair (I'm only 22 just to put this into perspective).
So I was not naive to believe I'll get rich quick when I tried to enter stock market recently as I already know first hand how hard business can be. Yet even I was caught off guard at how simplistic stuff such as comparing different stocks in chart analysis could be.
So it makes me wonder why the politically left and anarchist as well as poor and many middle class people think running a business and investments is a cakewake? And why many of them think just because Trump was given a lot of cash to start business by his already rich dad that it was easy as playing video games for him to run his enterprises?
I mean has any one seen how Tom Kalinske left his job as CEO of Sega of America with grey hair just because the stress of company politics got him? Or how medical analysts are saying Steve Jobs had a relatively young death because of his diseases which they theorized was probably caused by being overworked running Apple?
I would like your input libertarians!
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2018.01.18 05:22 BarkeyForeman How legit is the criticism that many current successful businessmen and investors inherited their wealth and/or company or came from educated upper middle class backgrounds? Does it ignore how difficult running a business and investing is (despite criticisms from leftists and the general populace)?

These two posts should explain much of what I have to say.
https://www.reddit.com/offmychest/comments/7qx0as/how_come_biographies_interviews_etc_nonfiction/
https://www.reddit.com/business/comments/7qxo6j/how_come_famous_stock_brokers_businessmen/
Be sure to read the above links (at least read the first one!) before reading the rest of my post.
Growing up I always seen criticism from many leftists- in particular American liberals, Communists (especially those from Russia or descending from former upperclass Soviets), Anarchists, and other political groups leaning towards lefty fiscal economics about how its unfair businessmen like Trump are successful because they already inherited the wealth and profitable company of their parents or they came from upper middle class background and have outstanding education like Bill Gates.
This criticism goes beyond people involved in politics. I cannot tell you how many poor people often scoff at the rich business owners because they are just lucky to have been born from wealthy parents. Hell I even see middle class people who are well off attacking the Bill Gates and other successes as lazy imbeciles who are just "sitting on their butts all day long" and they are hoarding wealth so it should be distributed. I seen from the general populace, both poor and middle class, attack the capitalist system because business men aren't really doing hardwork nor are they producing anything of value.
I will admit just for the sake of what I will say in a minute that I am not a conservative. I've been raised in a minarchist household that favors neither leftist nor rightest view but merely view government should have minimal interaction in everything from what movies you watch to visiting a brothel to AK47 owndership. So yes I already have views that are contradictory to conservative idealism.
Yet I could never understand the criticism "business men are lazy because they inherited their richness" and "running a business is as easy as 123!". Even before I started going into the stock market, I already had first hand experience of how running a business would be like via stays at my auntie (who I mentioned in one of the above reddit links, owns a restaurant). In addition to seeing the dangers and difficulties of kitchen cookings, everytime I stayed over I would always hear her at night getting enraged as she spoke on the phone as she was speaking with employees, partners, and other business associates about so many complex subjects such as paying the bills, trying to get a new insurance company's support, difficulties with kitchen equipment, etc. I could always see how stressed my auntie would be everytime she woke up before she drank coffee and took a bath.
Mind you my auntie is actually quite a successful business owner. At the time she already had a $1,000,000 (I was 14 when she had that amount) in one of her bank accounts and when I talked to her which was weeks before I tried to get into stocks and bonds recently, she told me she had amassed a little over $10 million in that specific bank account. This is not counting assets, her other bank account savings, etc. But I can see despite being merely 46, she's already full of gray hair (I'm only 22 just to put this into perspective).
So I was not naive to believe I'll get rich quick when I tried to enter stock market recently as I already know first hand how hard business can be. Yet even I was caught off guard at how simplistic stuff such as comparing different stocks in chart analysis could be.
So it makes me wonder why the politically left and anarchist as well as poor and many middle class people think running a business and investments is a cakewake? And why many of them think just because Trump was given a lot of cash to start business by his already rich dad that it was easy as playing video games for him to run his enterprises?
I mean has any one seen how Tom Kalinske left his job as CEO of Sega of America with grey hair just because the stress of company politics got him? Or how medical analysts are saying Steve Jobs had a relatively young death because of his diseases which they theorized was probably caused by being overworked running Apple?
I would like your input libertarians!
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